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Well the guilt trip...obligation trip worked. Flick it off...... flick her off. Don't call, don't invite, don't do anything.... just stop.....and watch what happens. 
That's what I was thinking about doing .... laying low for a while. No....not lay low. Just get on with YOUR life...let her make her ***sigh*** sacrifices with someone else....let her be a martyr with someone else....sent her a picture of Mother Theresa and write lots of love me...xxx |
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Well the guilt trip...obligation trip worked. Flick it off...... flick her off. Don't call, don't invite, don't do anything.... just stop.....and watch what happens.
That's what I was thinking about doing .... laying low for a while. No....not lay low. Just get on with YOUR life...let her make her ***sigh*** sacrifices with someone else....let her be a martyr with someone else....sent her a picture of Mother Theresa and write lots of love me...xxx I don't have many friends, jess. Is that really what you would do? Your tough. |
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Edited by
Jess642
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Thu 09/03/09 07:55 PM
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No....not lay low. Just get on with YOUR life...let her make her ***sigh*** sacrifices with someone else....let her be a martyr with someone else....sent her a picture of Mother Theresa and write lots of love me...xxx I don't have many friends, jess. Is that really what you would do? Your tough. Yes. I have a deep respect for the authenticity and the integrity and the honesty of my friends. They play games...I call them on it.... I play games, I EXPECT to be called on it. No bullsh* te manipulation games...that's not friendship...that's a power play....and it worked...you feel stung, guilty, and somehow responsible. |
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Sounds like to me it is a lack of communication on both parts. People need to learn to talk to each other instead of others about what is going on...........
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Sounds like to me it is a lack of communication on both parts. People need to learn to talk to each other instead of others about what is going on........... agreed. |
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This sounds like a slightly dysfunctional friendship; two needy people fighting over who's needier.
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This sounds like a slightly dysfunctional friendship; two needy people fighting over who's needier. Its not about that. I thought seeing your friends once a week was normal. apparently its too much. |
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I would back off for a little while, keep in touch by phone ( see how she is) let her come to you if and when she needs you.After all, a secure friendship does not need to be joined at the hip. Good luck
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Edited by
WolfEyez
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Thu 09/03/09 08:05 PM
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FYI -- my friend has a semi friend that stole money from me ... they stil hangout every now and then
and she still talks to the guy who d!cked me over last month ... |
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Friendship is about people who enjoy each others company not about how many times a week you see each other or who did what for who.
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I would back off for a little while, keep in touch by phone ( see how she is) let her come to you if and when she needs you.After all, a secure friendship does not need to be joined at the hip. Good luck
yeah that's what I was planning ... |
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Friendship is about people who enjoy each others company not about how many times a week you see each other or who did what for who. i get that. She's complaining her friends are around too much ... I only see her once a week maybe ... and she's the one who sends the invites out so ... yeah I agree. |
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Friends should WANT to be there for each other. Not because they feel they have too. I SO agree with this statement So true i have many friends,but two truly ones that i can count on no matter what.and they can always count on me.we count on each other. 
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I think I'm just going to stop trying to please people in general. Even myself. I don't know why I try.
You know, she went out to a bar last night. She didn't tell me she was going with the crazy drunk who stole my money ..... |
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ALWAYS keep pleasing yourself. You are number 1.
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For me bein friends is like giving presents.
Give what & when YOU want. Accept what you get & when it is given. ONLY thing YOU can CONTROL...............YOU. |
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Maybe I read this differently than everyone else but really it sounds like she thinks its some kind of chore to hang out with her friends? I can't stand people who get a bf/gf and forget about everyone else..... that is of course until they break up and need their friends again.
So what you're supposed to be grateful for any time you do get to spend with her? Nice friend 
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Friendship is about people who enjoy each others company not about how many times a week you see each other or who did what for who. Sooooooooooooooooo very true, I will admit the friends I have we get together once in a while not on a daily or weekly bases sometimes it will be weeks or months when we do. Why because some have a partner within their life that comes first, some due to distance and then sometimes life just gets in the way.... Friendships are about enjoying the time you have together not thinking you deserve more of that persons time. They have other friends and family they want to be around.
When Friendship becomes a chore it is no longer one you enjoy being around and it is time to back off and let everyone have some breathing room in order to enjoy the friendship once more........... 
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Maybe I read this differently than everyone else but really it sounds like she thinks its some kind of chore to hang out with her friends? I can't stand people who get a bf/gf and forget about everyone else..... that is of course until they break up and need their friends again.
So what you're supposed to be grateful for any time you do get to spend with her? Nice friend
No, I feel as though I'm a chore. She's been with this guy for two years and some months .... I know she only gets to see him on weekends .. but i can't get to her during the week ... what other option is left? |
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Friendship is about people who enjoy each others company not about how many times a week you see each other or who did what for who. Sooooooooooooooooo very true, I will admit the friends I have we get together once in a while not on a daily or weekly bases sometimes it will be weeks or months when we do. Why because some have a partner within their life that comes first, some due to distance and then sometimes life just gets in the way.... Friendships are about enjoying the time you have together not thinking you deserve more of that persons time. They have other friends and family they want to be around.
When Friendship becomes a chore it is no longer one you enjoy being around and it is time to back off and let everyone have some breathing room in order to enjoy the friendship once more...........
My point is .. its no tlike I even see her that often. I don't see any of my friends during the week. friday is date night for her. so that leaves saturday since I'm busy on sundays. Friendship isn't a chore to me. she makes it out like I'm around all the time when in fact ... I'm not. |
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