I'm one of those nice guys with a dark side

It depends on what you want, or in this case, who you want. You can be a jerk or a nice guy, but if the other person just isn't into you, you're wasting your time.

Just be yourself.

good advice.

Thanks.

More often than not nice guys do finish last. Most people define nice guys as doormats so the answer is obvious.

Now nice people in general, those that are kind, compassionate, loving, loyal, honest, etc. rule the world.

Thank you everyone! the advice is greatly appreciated. *drink his man up juice*

It's funny you don't look like the typical "nice guy."

the way these times are, you will run into shallow people for sure, but there are great people here, too many friends to count, and i've met one very special here that has my heart..... and where you are there are many as well, if you look, that are not hung up into this temporary society that is advertising superficial qualities in people....media generalizes!!!

i think if you are just yourself......one, the "nice guy" image doesn't apply, because you are behaving in regular terms, how people are behaving to you, and if they behave badly to you, you have to decide how to act. you can change this, by putting their very behavior back in their court, and not lose face with anyone, by diverting the scenario back to their diotribe or rant, such as" wow, you're really having a time of it! if i can help you to get your day to be more positive, well, let me help", and they will respect you, and that includes handsome or pretty parties of both sexes, whether they are bottom-wipes or not, for you weren't nice or mean...just truthful. it will get you respect, and maybe a friend....
these guys you speak of......
being a tough guy to "get chicks" gets you no-where, and usually the wrong "chick" anyway. to get the attention of the right one, back-up your talk, listen, and be a man of action to back up your talk with quiet positive methods to get your respect that you so much seem to desire.

"tough guys" i've seen a dime a dozen, and they'll leave the woman hanging everytime when the road gets rough...a STRONG GUY, how-ever, will be there to see whatever it is to the end, and respect will follow, and never does he have to act like a jerk. He's a man's man, and a gentle ladie's man as well.

"tough guys" run from STRONG GUYS. unless they have a way to shoot them in the back......but if they do that,,, STRONG GUYS have friends......

so..........................be a strong guy

you are obviously familiar with leading men and super-heros,(batman) what qualities do you and they have in common? what makes women look at them, in or out of their regalia? what are their actions like? be yourself, but observe and absorb these traits into yourself....

Yeah? what makes you say that hmm?

You're a lot easier on the eyes.

No I agree, he looks like a run of the mill, real guy.


Not some whiny, whingy, moaning, complaining.......... victim.


Just be REAL Darkknight....don't lower yourself to play games...stick to being authentic.

That was a kick *** post!

Heh, thanks Jess! . Oh and btw, love your profile pic!!

Hahahaha!! Thankyou. It was fun! And a very out of the norm night....

Looks like everyone had a great time to me

i know what girls want and like but when it comes down to bare brass tax i seem to punk out, all because i'm shy and don't wana disrespect a women, any info ladies?

thankyou! (bows humbly)