This from a man that only shows his stomach?

*toot toot* ya frigg'n hottie, Myka!

And chest. Stomach and chest.

This is about him, not me.

And chest. Stomach and chest.

This is about him, not me.

You were spot on right up until you said "be a friend." I warn you now, and you don't get to my age without finding this out the hard way, if they start thinking of you as "a good friend" that is all you will ever be. You can empathize, you can relate, you can care, show compassion, but you cannot be a womans friend and still hope to have a romantic relationship at a later time.
I don't care what barrage of "not true" follows this post, I know from experience and that never lies. To a woman friendship is a sign of weakness in a man, and as D.O. said above you need to appear strong.


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i'm not looked at as weak at all....i'm friends to all first, and it has to be equal with no male or female trump cards from either parties...i know of what you are speaking of....but if you have enough mystery, and aren't a SAP, you'll always continue to keep people of both sexes interested and intrigued, with respect and strength from your inner self(harder than it looks when you're in love for sure!) you'll have that extra..."IT" and be a best friend to boot....

i think if you are just yourself......one, the "nice guy" image doesn't apply, because you are behaving in regular terms, how people are behaving to you, and if they behave badly to you, you have to decide how to act. you can change this, by putting their very behavior back in their court, and not lose face with anyone, by diverting the scenario back to their diotribe or rant, such as" wow, you're really having a time of it! if i can help you to get your day to be more positive, well, let me help", and they will respect you, and that includes handsome or pretty parties of both sexes, whether they are bottom-wipes or not, for you weren't nice or mean...just truthful. it will get you respect, and maybe a friend....
these guys you speak of......
being a tough guy to "get chicks" gets you no-where, and usually the wrong "chick" anyway. to get the attention of the right one, back-up your talk, listen, and be a man of action to back up your talk with quiet positive methods to get your respect that you so much seem to desire.

"tough guys" i've seen a dime a dozen, and they'll leave the woman hanging everytime when the road gets rough...a STRONG GUY, how-ever, will be there to see whatever it is to the end, and respect will follow, and never does he have to act like a jerk. He's a man's man, and a gentle ladie's man as well.

"tough guys" run from STRONG GUYS. unless they have a way to shoot them in the back......but if they do that,,, STRONG GUYS have friends......

so..........................be a strong guy

I know that, I read your profile I just liked what you wrote.

and you will always have my full respect, and admiration, with friendship....thankyou!

when you are here, it's about everyone. every one is observed here, and not devoid of any wisdom or diatribe. we are all fair game here, and me to speak out, as hidious as i am, have no shame, nor can be put down, for you can't put down the hidious......tee hee! for you know it would look really bad in "societies" ill's....something i care little about. i do care about the individual however. one who puts one down to look superior in front of others, wil learn much wisdom if he pays attention.....if not? he pays the consequences dearly sometimes.......sad, but true....there's a thousand years of do's and don't's on here at any given time.....i just sit back and listen.....

it works for me...(knods and acknowledges)

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kindness is your greatest strength my friend, but people consider kindness a weakness and mis-took for a fool..hence, that one... that wrong person is NOT for you.... to find someone who respects this is very minimal indeed, but the lucky one who does, that honors your true integrity and inner strength, will soar with you, not ahead of you....and poop in your face. this is why, the more you know, the harder it is to meet that special person. the more wisdom we gain, the dumber we become.......reality, but too true... you are what some are looking for, don't change on account of others, refine as you have been......you are a true gem among the masses..a rare find indeed!!!

IMHO, the worse is when someone confides in you and shares everything with you and then says, " I wish _____ was just like you."
I think to myself sometimes. Am I invisible?

doesn't mean you're invisible, just means they're not into you. you shouldn't take it as insult; not everyone is going to be into you, just like you're not into them.

Meant as a compliment.

How can someone that talks with a tongue as lovely as yours, refer to themselves hidious?

Thank you. I have never thought of it from that point of view.

IMHO, the worse is when someone confides in you and shares everything with you and then says, " I wish _____ was just like you."
I think to myself sometimes. Am I invisible?

IMHO, the worse is when someone confides in you and shares everything with you and then says, " I wish _____ was just like you."
I think to myself sometimes. Am I invisible?