I hate when that happens !

Oh Phew!!!!!!! Thanks T...I was scared for a second there...just did a limb count...and checked all the bits were still here...


Lose trust?


As with having trust...it has to be earnt....

earn my trust...

earn my distrust...

it's not really anything to do with me...


other than if there is clear evidence of something worthy of distrust...I'm dust...meep ! meep!!!

Hahahah!!! Puts a whole new spin on chewing your arm off!!!!!!

i just keep my pimp hand strong

If I distrust a lover than it's only because she's done something to deserve the distrust. Like the time I learned my girlfriend slept with a dude when we were supposed to be monogamous. I broke it off and found someone else within a week.

Wow!!! One week?


Must have been a very deep heartfelt committed relationship on your part, too.....

I would tend to agree that this is more likely the case in situations like this. Sure, sometimes we make bad choices, or our ******** meters are broken. But often, trust is broken and cannot be repaired because the other just isn't willing to put in the effort.

If a lover knows that a certain couple of noxious behaviors of theirs really affect your ability to trust in them because of their past, wouldn't it stand to reason that doing these behaviors blatantly, in your face (not just in a respectful manner), could be their way of getting you to lose your cool and/or end with them?

....or is it indeed possible that such inconsiderate and selfish people actually exist in the world - are so id driven that they cannot control their impulses.

MORE of the SAME issues with man Read this post and alk of selfishness

So in your opinion, it is purely about the id and selfishness, not purposely trying to hurt the other or destroy the relationship? Either way, the outcome is the same, no?

The outcome is always the same whatever the motive in my experience anyway .I think people in this day are selfish and operate on a me first to hell with the consequences mentality.And I am not generalizeing here I mean the people that show these kinds of traits .

Don't waste your time being with someone you can't trust. Life is much better when you don't have unreliable people constantly affecting the way you feel. Give it up and wait for something better.

Only, what's worse, the devil you know or the devil you don't?

I think I would have to figure out why I didn't trust them. IF it was an issue with me, then I would fix it. If they have broken the trust and it can't be repaired then it is time to leave

If I get a vibe I can not trust someone I end the relationship.

Experience has taught me if I hang around until I can define why I feel that way I am trowing good time after bad. Whenever I trust my instincts about a situation I have never failed to be right sooner or later.

Does it always mean it is a really bad person? Not always. But what it has always meant when I did stay was dragging out the enevitable and everyone involved suffering for it. If you do not feel safe and that you can trust the person you are with you are not going to be a good partner for that person.

Same goes if they don't trust you. No matter how hard you try to build their confidence in you the more paranoid and controlling they are going to become. While I have never cheated on someone I have gotten so fed up that it was so over, by the time I left them, that I didn't want to have a time out. I was ready to move on.