why is it that most women wont date a guy if he has kids i got turned
down twice today cause i have kids im just like everybody else i just
wanna find love..any comments can be sent to my yahoo
lehman_1979@yahoo.com i wanna hear what women think about it.....

i don't have a problem dating a guy with kids..

but why is it, guys have problems dating women with kids? or if they
want to date you.. they don't want to include the kids? to me.. if you
date someone with kids, you are in away dating their kids too.. kid's
need to be included and not left out.

well, to let you guys in what i think. i think because children are a
lot of responsibilty and they arent the kind of peopel who want to get
into responsibilties. and also they might feel like that if they did
date someoen with kids that there wont be enoguh of time alone time.
just a couple of thought. i would date someoned with kids, i have one
myself

yea dating is so hard with having kids.. so i don't date anymore i gave
up.. just finish raising them and then maybe.. but now days it sucks..
and why put my girls through it.. they don't need it becuase i want it..
don't need to teach em that..

hey people just dont want an insatant family anymore i guess.would date
a man with kids.

i might sound like i have no idea what im talking about but im only 18
so maybe im right.

a lot of times when i was growing up my dad would seem sadish because
he felt like he was not good enough because he wasnt the real father
they probably just have the simple fear of that "Step Prefix "

kids are kids either way. the more you treat them has a big influence
on them the more you treat them like there your the more they become
yours in a sense.

i don`t think i would mind dating someone with kids.

Honestly, before I had my child, I wouldn't date a man that had children
because I didn't want to get caught in a dramatic situation. After, I
had the baby I realized that as long as people are mature and
understanding, situations can work out... Now, I'm single because I'm
extremely picky. I don't want my daughter to use mistakes I've made as
justification for stupid stuff she's going to do, so I'm careful about
who I date, and even more careful about who I let in her life... But all
single parents need love. Right now, I'd RATHER date a man with kids
because he already has a family and he understands raising one. Get a
guy my age involved with no kids, and it may or may not become a
difficult situation... especially if he's not ready for the popcorn
family.

I enjoy dating single dads. Even if their child isn't as old as mine
they can relate to me. I actually feel more comfortable with a man who's
a dad that's involved in their child's life. My son's father plays a
very active role so I'm not looking for a "dad" but I do look for
someone I am interested in, who gets along well with my son, and would
like to take an authoritative male role in the future.

Kids are a bonus in my eyes, NEVER a burden! That means you have little
souls to love and give love back. People who do not want to have
additional kids or kids in general do not deserve your effort.

There are many types of people. Some are perfectly satisfied living
their lives without ever having children. You are destined to meet all
different types here on the world wide web.

They evaluated you and chose otherwise. You will do the same to others
you meet. You're not going to fall for everyone you meet.

Just stay true to yourself, and do not compromise yourself or your
children.

There are many fish in the "sea". First you may have to catch a few
suckers, but the wait is worth it.

herewego: I don't think it's right to include the kids until you are
pretty sure the 2 of you are going to be together a while. Otherwise, it
looks like you are parading men or women in and out of your kids' lives.
Kids get attached to people.

I am old enough that it is a given that anyone I date is going to have
had kids, so it's not an issue w/me.

The way I look at it is this, if someone won't date me because of my
children...they just missed out on 3 good people! I have 2 wonderful
boys that would be a joy for anyone to meet~~sure they are over
protective but they love me, so I think thats a good thing
There are some women that don't have children and they don't want to be
bothered. Do you really want someone like that in your life and your
childrens life?? Hey its their loss!! Plenty of women out there that
love children...good luck on your search

if they wont date me coz i have kids oh well. its as simple as that.
Does not phase me at all.

Im with LazyJ, its just to hard these days, but if by some chance I did
meet a man, I would prefer a single Dad.

I make sure that any potential dating prospect knows that i have a
child. If they dont like it, they know here they can go. Besides, if
they dont like kids, there is no reason for me to even consider going
out with them

Ahhhh, write those silly girls off. Your kids are a part of your life
no matter who else comes in to it.

Also, I agree with the idea of not bringing people around your kids
until you are certain they will be around (as a mate or friend). I made
the mistake of bringing someone around my son early in a relationship.
It turned out he had a big alcohol/drug problem. I'm just happy that I
saw this quick and did not have blinders on (as I would have in my
youth).

I also understand the 'giving up' idea of dating while the kids are
young/at home. My sister did that. She did not date until both kids
were away at college. Hers were older than mine at the time of the
split. My gosh, that would mean an 18 year drought on dating for me.
My ex and I split when our son was less than 2 months old.

i started this topic for those who say dont involve them untill ur sure
ur right about that. the first thing i tell a person is that i have kids
a 3 yr old boy and a 6 yr old daughter witch i havent seen in almost 3
yrs not by my fault anyway i cant even get passed the first conversation
w/ women cause like i said the first thing i tell them is about my kids.
so if any women who read this and is from my area shippensburg pa who
either has kids or likes kids i would like to talk to you..

depends who you are asking, what kind of women turned you down?

i am asking all women and no luck yet ,i guess im asking the women who
dont like kids but how do i know that unless i ask.

If they don't want to date you because you have kids they probably
aren't worth dating.

I have a kid and I've never had any girl say she cared about that. But I
also choose carefully when looking for girls to date. If a girl shares
my interests and appeals to me as someone I might date I can guarantee
you that I already know her feelings on my son.

I believe that being a single mom that has happened to me too. I don't
know why it is so hard to date when you have kids.