I think they could be thinking you just want someone to take care of the little ones for you. It's gonna take a special woman to jump in there and be your other half and stepmom to your babies.

You put your private email addy in your question?? DUDE!! You say you havent seen your youngins in 3 years. You have a 3yr old and a 6yr old. That speaks volumes to most women. Why havent you seen your kids? Child support issues? Could he be an abuser? deadbeat dad maybe? I am NOT being mean or hateful. Just being honest. You have rights as a parent to SEE those kids so is anger part of this story? I would like to hear her side for sure because something is just not right here.

Everyone that has posted a comment on here as the same point of view. If they can't except your kids, then they need to go. It wouldn't be worth effort.

I also completely agree about not involving the kids until you are sure it's going to be a serious. It's really hard on the kids and confuses them.

My babies always come first. NO MATTER WHAT!!!!!

Hey lazyj321...have you changed your mind about dating yet???

Hello everyone. I just want to say, I'm a single mom, have 2 teenage daughters. My children are bi-racial. I have found that some men don't want to date me because of my family. It's hard to beleive in the year 2007, not everyone is accepting of your lifestyle. I have raised my daughters alone for the last 13 years, they are noe 17 and 18. Have totally supported them alone, not state aid, nothing. I'm not bragging about it, just stating facts. I don't need or want a man to support us, I'm doing a great job on my own. I want to meet someone for me. If the men I meet can't accept my kids, then so be it, to each his own. I know in my heart there is a guy for me that is willing to accept me and my children. If a guy I meet has kids, I welcome them. I would treat them like my own. I love children, no matter what background, nationality, handicap, whatever. Children are our future,and we should all recognize that. Thanks for listening,sorry so long.

I'm 20, single and pregnant... I've met guys who, upon finding out I was pregnant, told me to call them in a year- because they'd rather date a chick with a kid, than a pregnant girl. I guess it's hard for a guy to get to know someone who is carrying another man's child- but, as I've tried to explain to them- that man is gone for a reason, and he's not coming back. I either have to do this alone or find someone who doesn't mind. It's also hard, though- because after being turned away so much- I'm afraid that when someone does express interest without caring about my pregnancy- I'll be too suspicious about why this person doesn't mind, when everyone else does. I'm not looking for a father, I'm looking for a companion who can understand and appreciate that I'm on my way to being a single mom.

I wish you the best. There are certainly great guys out there who are man enough to be there for you. Hope you meet the most perfect guy in the world and hit it off and he can raise this baby as his own. Like my pastor always said on Fathers Day. Anybody can be a Father, but it takes a special man to be a true daddy. Both of my moms brothers married women who had a daughter and both of the girls thought of them as their real dad. They didn't even care about there biological dad because they were never there for them. Now, some of you guys out there, look at this opportunity to be in this childs life and make a difference. I had a neighbor who was 17 at the time and dropped out of school, and he met this girl when she was less than a month pregnant, and he was with her through the birth and then they got married. She is older than him, but so far it is working because he loves that little girl so much. Just after that, she had gotten pregnant again with his baby, and she had a miscarriage. They would've been 12 months apart. She has other kids that don't even live with her. He's a better daddy than she is a mom. I hate to say that. Well girl, hang in there. Will pray for you. Keep us posted also. Can't wait to hear about the baby. Take care. ttyl

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I would have no problem dating a man with kids. I have 3 of my own plus a whole extend family full of them. They are very important to me, as I am sure his kids are to him. Even the one's I didn't give birth to, I talk about them just as much as I do my real ones.
I do wait until I know where the relationship is going before I introduce the man to my children for a number of reasons. My youngest attaches easily and if the relationship didn't work out, she is the one who gets hurt the most. The other reasons are the rest of my kids (yes all of them) are very protective of mom and want to grill and possibly even threaten potential dates, lol, (if you can handle my my kids you are doing great!).
I figure, a divorced man is most likely going to have kids too, why not date them too. Is it fair for a man to date a woman with kids but not for a woman to date a man with kids?

in the words of my ex...."no ones ganna want you.. you have baggage" i have a 9 month old son and i am 4 months pregnant now... and i think most guys are afraid to date me due to the fact that most guys think that the girl just wants a father figure or some one to buy their kids things.. at least thats what the one guy i dated told me.... but hes a single father of 2 also... wo whats really going on..... and on the side note if my son doesnt like you i'm sorry i will have to move on... to be a family you must like every one who is envolved.. agree to disagree???

I am surprised how much I like the nurses' kids. The residents love them, too. Of course some of the residents act like kids so there really isn't any problems. Kids can say the darndest things. I thought it was cool when one of the aide's kid said, "Momma, there are grandmas in almost every room."

im a single dad raised my boys from day one,i have had only 4 dates in the last ten years cuz of what women think about a single dad they think i just want an instant mom hell no id reather be alone then deal with that mind set

i'm a single dad. however my youngest just finished high school. but two kids and my granddaughter still live with me. so maybe that's a problem tryiong to start new relationships. i can't say for sure.