How many of us out there are afraid to get back into or even into a relationship? I know i am. Not for lack of trying thats for sure. I have a problem with giving my whole heart upfront and then having it broken again and again. I never have understood why the one thing that most people strive for is the most painful thing we can encounter. I want to be in love. But I dont think the person that needs my love is in my area or state for that fact. I like to have my cards read to me, but everytime i do my future always seems to be dark like failure is all i am destined to have. This freaks me out what if i am never to love again? I doubt that but its always playing in the back of my mind.

yeah i hear ya, i know the feeling... i guess i do it because loving someone is the greatest feeling in the world, and i want to feel that again

There is a reason you cannot give your whole heart. You are not ready to. There is nothing wrong with that......

I dont have that problem, i give my whole heart to any relationships. I am the type who will go without so someone else can have what they want or need. Im not a push over though. I know how to say no. But my heart is open to everybody that enters my life. Is my problem that i care too soon, maybe?

The first issue I have is why give your whole heart out there to be heart. You should guard your heart at first releasing only some at a time. The second so what if the cards show you will have failure. you know what the cards are not always right. in fact they often are wrong. Even if you do experience failure, learn from it. Use that lesson to help you the next time around. I have learned more in my life from failing then any success I ever had.

You don't even need to be a phone call away from being on your knees. One flippant IM, email, or text-message would be enough to do that.

And I'm not so much afraid to get into another relationship as so much as I'm just not gonna waste my time on such a venture anymore. It's just a complete and total joke.

Never get on your knees.

You are a woman... You have thousands of years of earning the right to stand equal.

dont start with the whole heart... Give a bit of it and if it comes back then give a bit more.

You need to love yourself

That is true for all of us

Love is scary......

if you are fearful of a reatioship why are you on a dating site???

I think alot of people are afraid of relationships. I know I am. Its taken me alot to get where I am even now. I also think that alot of people "want" to be in a relationship but the past has marred them to no return. Its sad really. So basically they want to be in a relationship but dont wanna be too. What an oxymoron??

wow gypsy .....Thanks for the insight

ya......sometimes Im smott!!

Or they want to be in a good, strong, HEALTHY relationship, but aren't quite sure how to go about it and are afraid of making ANOTHER mistake.

I might suggest stop having your cards read and go out there with a positive attitude.

JMO

Smart reply.