Who is really looking for love??

Who is just looking to get laid??

Who is just looking to find someone that they can see on a regular basis
but no commitment??

How many here feel that single sites, like this one, or any of them,
tend to make all of us feel like a player because of the process that we
have to continue to go through in order to meet our significant other
and see how our chemistry is together. So then, in fact, does meeting
someone for dinner or a movie or a drink lead us to find out our
chemistry together, but then also our acceptance of each other, but if
we then find out that the chemistry isn't there, are we not just living
but the life of a player? What do you think?

Im pookin fo wub in awwwww da wong pwaces

Hehe, wookin po nub (nyuck nyuck).

But to answer the question at hand, it all comes down to intent, really.
Seeking love is a normal and wonderful thing, but it can be used as a
mask for someone just trying to 'dip their wick' so to speak. While they
tend to dilute the purity and presence of honest folk, they also help to
"sweeten the pot". For love to be the best thing there is, you really
have to appreciate it. Isn't the whole mess worth it when you find that
someone special?

First one I'm looking for but not on this site lol

Second one if it happens it happens

Third one Never have never will

shadow........you are sooooooooooo lying lol

Hi Iam4u

I am looking to find someone who makes me feel special, so I guess I'm
looking for love.


I don't feel like a player on here for talking to men. I feel a player
is someone who goes around looking for all they can get. Be it sex,
gifts or free meals, they will take it from anyone who offers it.

If I go out with a man for dinner or drinks and I feel that the
chemistry is not there, I will offer to split the bill. This way I will
never get a phone call accusing me of wasting his time and money.
Wasting his time---he had to eat anyway, wasting his money---not on my
meal.

Have a nice night!

First one..found it

Second one..never was lookin for that..so not my style

Third...again never was lookin for that sooo not my style

No dating sites do not make you a player if you still haven't found what
you are looking for, its just part of life, looking for the one who
completes and compliments you..it don't make ya a player if your search
takes time and you meet different people..it takes time to know people,
meet them face to face to know if they are the one..

I believe if I dont find the one here at least I have found some good
friends and there are many here

I am looking for love, not just to get laid.
If I wanted to just get laid I would not be online.
Just because you meet someone for dinner and find out the chemistry is
not there does not make you live the life of a player. How else would
one find that special someone?

This kind of upsets me, I feel someone is calling me a player because I
decide that the chemistry is not there. well- if that makes me a player
then I would rather be that then someone still lonely and sad in the
wrong relationship because I had dinner with someone or did not take the
chance to meet that person and was truthful about the situation.

I came seeking to find friends and someone to possibly share my life
with. But I am finding out more and more time spent here and going
through meeting a woman and then sharing our chemistry together, when it
doesn't lead to a lasting relationship, I find myself feeling like a
piece of meat and then I ask myself, what is the difference between me
looking for a lasting relationship but still both using each other for
love. Am I not just living the life of a player?

No...as I said in my response a player is looking out only for
themselves and not for the other person. If you were both looking and
hoping for chemistry and romance, you cannot be considered a player
Just a man looking for what most of us are looking for and can't seem to
find.

hahaha piece of meat.......uhhhhhh sorry

Most people if on this line are not players because you can't see them.

I am not getting personal in any of this, I don't mean this towards
anybody. I just wanted feedback from other people to see if they are
feeling like I feel.

The women who I have met from this site and shared time with, although
still good friends, I find myself feeling as I go through meeting
different friends. that this whole concept of meeting and experiencing
each other in all aspects of life makes "me" feel like I am a player.

And I have never wanted to be a player.

I am just looking for love.

Someone once wrote that there were too many options on dating sites to
settle on one person. I tend to agree.

Say you go to a party, or a bar, or church, and meet someone you like.
Do you have the option to go back to that same party or bar day after
day to meet others who you might like more? No. But on dating sites
you know there is the possibility that there will an email from someone
new every day who may be the "one."

Don't get me started on the "one" theory. If there is only "one" for
me, that would totally suck. How do you find "one" out of 300 million
people in the US alone???? Not to mention internationally. What if my
"one" is wondering around Italy looking for his "one" (me)???

I don't think most of us want to be players, but I do think
subconsciously we aren't as likely to commit to that one person because
the possibility of meeting someone more compatible with the next email
or post seems endless on a dating site.

and to answer your questions: yes, no, no

I'm looking for _______________!

a) fun
b) love
c) fun & love
d) love & fun
e) fun & fun
f) love & love
g) none of the above
h) all of the above
i) im just silly



Fill in the blank!

you are getting personal iam4u
how can you say you are not
you contradict yourself..not getting personal,
however the word I is used frequently

<<<sighing and taking a deep breathe>>>
walking away and not looking back

do we need to put on the wedding dress? damn I love a good wedding and I
love being a bride but Im not sure what you are expecting?

I am here just looking for friends. The love thing might happen or might
not, but you never know until you have taken a chance on meeting
someone. At least by looking for friends, you have friends no matter
what.

Hey, the internet is a great way to express yourself. Some people are
better with written word then to speak in person. It is also a great way
to get to know people from all over the world.