Why are women so afraid to initiate conversation? They view your profile. click on mutual match. show you they are interested. but still want you to email first. Does this happen for others or is it only me? I encourage all you women to just be open with guys. if you are interested. then say something or email, whatever. Some guys are just dumb and do not see the signs. Sometimes we need things spelled out. Any thoughts?

That is not it... A lot of women look at Profiles, not men in general, we look at what you have written, we look at if your a smoker, or drinker, we look at your job status, we read your comments about yourself an your life?

we look then at your pictures.. if at this time we do not see what we are looking for then why waist your time or mine.

Most people might like the back ground of the picture and not personly the person.... There are many reasons... why a women dose this.

Have you ever thought about going out of your state...??? there are more women (interesting women) that are in other states, if you can not find your women in your state it is because she is probably not there...

When God cast his sons out to other country and changed language, Well did you know that a man has to Travail to find the women that is meant for him???? and then he leave his mother and father and moves in with her mother and father, the father gives him land and a few sheep and some grain.... and his choice of daughter!

At this time after he has paid this man back then the man takes his bride/wife and moves back to his mothers and fathers and enriches there life.

Now granted that this is only in Jesus time and dose not apply to the 2009, however, if you want to find a women and cannot find one.. she is probably in another state?????

Anyway, I am not her, I am a lesbian.. but I thought you should know this.. I go from state to state looking for my mate..... when i find her... I will be very happy indeed!

hope this answered your question....

Think you misunderstood the point i was making. I was more directing this towards the women who are interested in someone but do nothing about it. They sit around waiting for someone else to make the first move to start the relationship. Complain that this guy never notices them yet they do not do anything including initiating a conversation. This also applies to offline as well.

As far as not being interested that is a whole different story. I agree if what you are doing does not work. do something else. Also as far as not finding anyone could be that you are intended to stay single because you could better serve God by being single. For some this is tough to take in. but once accepted they often are happier and enjoy life that much more

I do apologize if it sounded like was complaining that things were not working. That was not my intention. just something I had noticed and wondered if others had noticed this as well. My initial intention was to educate the women who come across shy guys. Shy guys often think they do not have a chance with most women. So they will rarely strike up a conversation. So being a women with this knowledge initiating that conversation could end up leading them to a great relationship.

You might just not be seeing the other side of this. In general, men are more assertive than women and tend to be the first ones to make contact. In contrast, it is more the norm for women to be more of the "shy' type and assume that if the guy didn't say something to them that that guy didn't find what he was looking for.

So in the case where you as a male have less of an inclination to start up a conversation with someone; chances are they aren't going to be the assertive type and seek you out.

But with all that being said, I'd hope to just see people communicating more in general. It shows in our forums how introverted the majority of us are. You've actually done a great job of getting things going lately here in the AZ forums, and people might take that as another sign that you would be the more upfront personality. (Not that I'm saying to stop if it doesn't match your character.)

Good point. Just what I would like to see more of is women or men go after what they want. open up. Be who they are no matter the situation. I look at this way. I used to be very shy, dumb but its who i was. Looking back i see all the missed opportunities. Its like this you are single. take a shot whats the worse that can happen? you stay single. nothing lost. So they rejected you no big deal, their loss.

I am the one who is always contancting the guys. what up with all the guys not saying thanks but no thanks? If your not interested WHY can you not say so. I fell like I have to contact anyone to get anything. Most of the time No one replys