Throw down the lies, throw away the fronts, say it straight forward.




What would YOU like to find here on this site?

A friend only.

A friend and maybe more?

A friendly date.

A, not sure, but I am here I think? lol



Come-on folks, YOU tell me what your looking for?

I am here to make friends. I have made many good friends
already and hope to make many more.

It would be nice to meet someone special in my life, but I
don't meet the criteria of many (most) of the men (not a Barbie
doll and never will be) (and, yes, that was a generalization, but
you haven't lived my life and after a lifetime of put-downs and
insults, I do know what I am talking about). The world is full of
shallow unaccepting people.

I can support myself, so I don't need a man for that. I am okay with just being friends.

At this time, I am here for good friends & conversation.
I make no attempt to hide my feelings for Gwen.
I wear my love for all to see; on my chest.
I have mixed feelings/thoughts on basicly telling a lady, she has to settle for #2, in my heart. Is that fair? (feel free to comment)

Also, I have some past business problems, financially.
Would not be fair to impose my problems on anyone else.


Terry, you didn't answer your own question.

Marie, we have met, this lady drove 3 hrs to meet me in an airport, chat for 2-3 hrs & drive home. Wonderful lady, being big all my life, I understand her statements. Shallow people are total AZZZ"S.

MARIE: FANTASTIC lady.

I think I'm here to talk with people and it would be nice if some gentleman started flirt-talking and even nicer if I met someone nearby who wanted to just start slowly with walks and stuff.

I'm not sure telling a woman right off that she will never hold a candle to your loving Gwen is the ticket. That sounds like you have closed off anyone else from entering your heart. Always keep Gwen in that very special part of your heart but maybe make a little spot for someone who could make you happy until you are with Gwen again.

I am here for friends

Well, I don't know.
I suppose we all have to take our time to get over things.
But there will come a time when it is right to let go, and then, only then, will we be able to do so.
Until such a time comes the memories of the good times we had will keep us going.
This, of course, is only my personal opinion on this, for others it might be different. I can't know this because I have not experienced it.
Personally, I'm here for friends. I'm not actively looking for a relationship. This might be because I'm not ready for one yet, and since this is a mainly American site, there would be a fat chance to find the one anyway as an LDR seems to me quite difficult.
If he should come along by chance, well, then I would have to regroup my troops, and take it from there.

Your right Don and I will now tell mine..

I am here to make some sad folks happy, the unwanted , cared about, and the depressed, repressed to a grin,,wink,lol
THATS why I believe GOD sent me here..
To always let a stranger know their never alone.

But in my long-term thoughts of joy and happy.
I search for a lady who finds me her all...and we live happy ever after.....

But for now friends here keep me in conversations and good will...

Yeah I'm here for friends and I also have that yearning for someone special in my life. Even tho the internet can be a tough place this forum makes it better. I am soft hearted it gets hard at times.

Wink, I am glad YOU wrote that last line, as if it was any man,,MANY would have to of made a crack,,,lol
And THIS site has helped me in many ways through bad and good,,its brought a LOT to my eyes and mind that I would have never guessed..
Most importantly would be the lack of being REAL by so many here..

Thanks for your reply....

I've made a lot of nice new friends

I came here with no aspirations really

Might be why I hide out in the 50's most the time I do pop in to the other side from time to time. The word Real, met someone liked by so many and not the person they are on here. They even called it just bs. I'm yearning but I leery now.

Its good to have been here long enough that I can say I have references,lol,lol NOT in a bad way, but I have met some friends on here who can speak of my person,wink..
BUT even THAT, still doesn't matter if no one wants to meet you,lol,lol

I came here to find people to talk to, and I have. There are some wonderful people in the 50 and over forum! Even when I don't make it in for a while everyone welcomes me back and even send me mail to see where I am. It sure does make a person feel good!
I think deep down we all want to be loved for who we are, and be with someone we can share and relate with. The ones who have already had that with someone probably feel the loss more, and of course will always love the one who gave them such happiness. I have alot of respect for the people here who do say that upfront. I do believe that some of those people can and will find a 2nd chance at real happiness, that does not mean they are being unfaithful to the 1st love, it just means they have found another that they can commit to and share with.
Sadly, after I dated a guy for 1 1/2 years he told me he was too old to have another all consuming love, and that I would never be the center of his universe. He asked me to marry him and be happy with the little bit he could give me. He told me that a comfortable roommate would be the best he could offer. When anyone would call him for anything he would go, but when I would call he would be busy. Since I needed to know I had a special love and that the man could place me in the center of his universe like I would him, we are now friends.

Well...I was friends with Darrel (my BF) for almost two years before we met...we were JUST friends...on line friends...

then last year around the 4th of July...I had a few friends (about 40 of them) from another site at my home for a big meet...that is when Darrel and I met for the first time in person...

The basis of our relationship is a strong, solid friendship...we learned about each other without any expectations of each other...and we have been together for over a year now, and I expect that to last for a very long ever...

so, while I am here for friendship, I am also here to learn, to heal from some great losses in my life, to laugh and to share...

Yet, I hold no expectations...

Jambo!!

~Deb

Good response Katz.

I'm here for friends and hopefully someday I will meet a man that wants to be a part of my life as much as I want to be a part of his life. I have a good job, home, friends and family so I don't need a man to make me whole. I simply miss the intimacy that can exist between two people who really care about each other.

For the moment friends is about all I can ask for. It’s will take a VERY special women for it to be anything else. I would like nothing more then a lifetime companion, but I can’t utter those three words “I love you”

I have exactly what I "need" from this site: friends from another site who migrated over here, combined with more freedom to say what I'd like to say.

Oh...there goes the ice cream truck....

I joined this site, just looking to talk to someone every now and then. The people here have taken me in and we are forming some great friendships. I belonged to a few other sites, met a lot of people but none like the ones on Mingle2. I expected to talk to the men, but was plasently surprised when the women welcomed me. Everyone has been great and I hope that we all can remain friends for a very long time.
I have no expectations of ever getting married again. But I do hope at some time to find a man that will be the center of my world.

Don - thank you for the sweet comments.
I understand your feelings for Gwen, but don't close yourself off to ever finding someone else, doesn't mean she will be another soulmate, but you could still find love and be happy. Just a thought. And, as far as the financial thing, heck, in this day and age, who doesn't have financial issues.

You are a great guy and some lady would be lucky to have you!!!
So, don't put up a wall and give the ladies a chance. Who knows, she may be right around the corner from you. You deserve to be happy again. Take care.