The only time I would even get involved is if there is a great deal of
money involved and great change. Changes make ya think but sometimes
they can do ya in too.

I would tell her in an e-mail, I am grateful for the one who told me and
out of it I got a wonderful friend

Well if there not together at this point I'm sure she will see things in
no time at all people tend to show themselves after after sometime.
There actions will be there fall

LEE
MY CONCERN IS PERHAPS HE EMAILED ME FOR A WHILE AND THEN SOMETHING
CLICKED FOR THE BOTH OF THEM.....


RATHER QUICKLY???????????


UGH......IT'S POSSIBLE.


THEN IF I SAY SOMETHING.......

AND IT EFFECTS THE NEW LOVE SORT OF SPEAK I WOULD FEEL LIKE SHTTTTTTTT

FROM MY UNDERSTANDING SHADOW IT IS ONLY A MATTER OF GETTING FINANCES
TOGETHER.

SO TIME LAPSE FOR THEM WILL BE VERY SOON.

Again, the other girl, that brokenhearted speaks of, was me.

And I mailed her and sked her very gently, if this man that had caught
her eye was such and such.

Then gently explained what had been going on with him and I.

She deserved to know, she deserved a right to make informed choices,
decisions, that if she didnt may have had a huge impact on her life.
Children, relocation, etc, etc.

What brokenhearted chose to do with that information, was up to her...

But she deserved to know, she is a caring, feeling, gentle hearted
person, who didnt deserve to be harmed.

It could have gone down very poorly, with outrage, and drama, and pain
everywhere... I was prepared to risk that, for my integrity is utmost to
me.

Sounds like Jess and Broken Hearted are stand up people to me. And I
don't know either one of em other than just seeing their posts.

YES LEE

i HEAR YOU AND AGREE.

SHE IS ONLY A DISTANT FRIEND.....

IF i WERE CLOSER TO HER .....

I WOULD FEEL SO MUCH BETTER.


BUT I WONT LOOK AWAY I MAY EMAIL HIM FIRST......

JUST ATHOUGHT TO ASK HIM TO BE TRUTHFUL .ETC....YADA YADA

Well I agree...Approach it the way Jess did...The same thing happened to
me and 5 others on the other site...I was fairly new and didn't clue in
to the players yet and it turned out that 6 of us were being played by
the same guy...BUT only one of us got hurt????????? Who was it...The one
that chose to give him the benefit of the doubt!!!!!!!

That being said...There was no drama...Only disgust and we are all still
good if not best friends to this day!!!!!!!!

i AGREE I SAID THAT......

LEE IS RIGHT.AS WELL AS SOME OF THE REST SHEL....


JUST NERVOUS......

DONT WANNA START NO GARBAGE....

Well if you approach it the right way...It won't but at least the person
is aware and can make a informed choice!!!!!!

Tulip, I agree with Jess. Follow your integrity. Your coscience will be
clean in the end.

TT if u know something that is a fact, not a hunch, hearsay, or just
drama, it is your moral and ethical responsibility to keep someone from
getting hurt.
Withholding information is just as bad as lying, or looking the other
way. What is going to happen if you don't say something, and someone
finds out you knew?

GOT IT TY EVERYONE.

TY ALL

NO ONE WOULD KNOW OR CARE THAT I KNEW.....

THAT IS WHY IT IS RISKY.

Hmmm.Kim...you know, and you care.

Or you would not have posted this thread.

It is your decision what you choose to do, and I know that you are a
good hearted person, and would not want to harm anyone.

I hear your dilemma.

Sounds like a recipe for disaster.
The only thing one can do is be honest.

^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^PLEASE