I don't care...friends are good too, that and I'm not seeking a relationship.

the friend zone!

You can still gain respect...AND bat an eyelash occasionally. It won't hurt....lol

I agree with you it's just not my style

And that's ojne of the good things about you Myka. :-)

I dont mind the friend zone.

If during this time she meets someone else and gets serious, then oh well.

When I was in my 20s it seemed like I was always in the "friend zone." I'd date a woman for a while and then try to talk to her about going to the next level. I thought I was showing respect by not pushing her into anything too soon.

Then someone told me that by doing that women thought I was being too chicken to make a move and felt it was an unattractive quality. So now I push! I keep going until she say stop. Then I back up abd start again. Two steps forward and one step back all the way to sex. Now I never get put in the friend zone and I have a lot more sex.

I'd only call you a player if you had sex with me THEN said you only wanted to be friends.

ETA: Texas, is it ALWAYS about sex?

don't you hate when that happens?

Call me clueless, but Im still shocked that even happens.
I mean I know it happens to a lot of people, but not to you two, its impossible.

Thank you babe. It just happens. Pfft.

Yea but you girls are so smart and know when your being played or not, and to see someone actually play you or any sweet lady just boils my arse. Not that it changes anything or makes them stop doing it, awww who am I kidding, its just our world today and all of the complaining wont change it at all.
Next time, give me names and numbers.
I wont do anything with them, I promise.

To answer the thread, I don't fear it at all, you got friends, you got friends with benefits and you got friends that want benefits, but are better left as friends. How many strangers look each other in the eyes and say, I love You, will you marry me? I know somewhere, in some state, in some town, (probably in mine lol.) that happens or has happened, but for most people, it starts out as friends.
I'm not scared of a friends list, I'm scared of the Hit list.

I think this subject is highly over rated.
Obviously if someone contacts you first they are intrested on some level. There's got to be something about you that attracts the person in some way and every situation always has the potential to go further than friends.

Friendzone doesn't work for me. How can you be friends if you just met. Friendship os a type of relationship in among itself. Can you truly say someone is your friend if you don't know them that well?

How about acqaintance zone?

Interest fades, trust me, this I know.

Um, thanks, but I consider myself majorly stupid when it comes to men. I've been played, lied to, jerked around, mistreated, used, everything but hit, no guy has ever tried to hit me, thank god. The only way I really know how to deal with a man, is NOT to deal with him at all. That's one reason I keep coming back on this site, it's my form of virtual reality. I can interact with men and not get crapped on, at least not in a long-lasting, depressing way. I don't think it matters who you are or what you look like in this world, everyone has been treated badly, it's up to you whether you keep putting up with it or not.

Understandable, this is for the people who refer to this "friend zone" I wondered if this is valid to men.

Fucck the friend zone, it truly hurts. I have no problems being friends with a girl but once that line is crossed it takes a lot of drama to get outta there, with or without her.

It's valid.

There have been a few times when I have heard " You are a great guy. But I just can't see myself dating you because you are such a good friend. "

So yeah. It happens.

Everyone talks about it being so hard to get out of the friends zone. It's not hard, it's next to impossible.

Once you are there, that's where you stay.

May I elaborate? Getting to this friend zone isnt just by being a friend. Its seeing more, caring and loving somebody deeper. So that is why it is so hard to leave, because the easiest way to leave is by stop being a friend, which of course is very difficult on the heart.

I couldnt even date anybody because my mind and heart were taken. It took a lot pain and downsize on friendship to even focus on somebody else.

I dont see how its possible to stay a friend and have hopes to really find love unless you fall out of love, but for me, I doubt I'll ever feel differently about her.