ok I know all about terrible 2's, but my daughter, who will be 3 in October, just flat out ignores me sometimes! I'll say her name 4 times, then finally have to say something like "sucker" or "park" to make sure she isn't deaf! Those words always get her attention, but if I need her for something, I might as well be talking to a brick wall!
Any suggestions??

First I would have her hearing tested to make sure she hears you.Than if she hears fine.I would count to three,If she don't listen,Take some kind of action to correct her.But needs to be done cositantly! has worked every time for ne.J.M.O
Good luck!

Do timeouts work??? Positive reenforcement about listening to mom...

That's what two is all about!!!

you need to say it once

if no response then take action

isolate her when you go to get her for isolation have a sucker in plain site and say to bad you did not answer then put her in isolation for x amount of time (do not give her the sucker)


i would recommend something else but it is not politically correct

Show her that you are the boss and SHE will respect you and answer you when you ask her a question. If my son won't answer me, he is grounded until he can answer. I take NO crap off my son because once he gets a job in the real world...no one is going to take his crap either.
When I send them out into the real world, I want them to be respectful and fine young men. That stems from what I have taught them!!! So I lay the rules down and either they make it easy or they make it rough on themselves.
I know one day both my boys will thank me for being such a strict Mom. Why? Because I have taught them the major tools in life on how to treat others and how to handle things without going crazy about it.
Good Luck

I agree with professional hearing testing. Some sounds are much easier to hear or comprehend in the white sound that muffled hearing allows.

Also putting her to bed 30 minutes earlier since at that developemental stage they are usually having a growth spurt and just tire easier so there reactions and allertness declines.

Since I do not believe toddlers calculate their behavior to purposefully be difficult it is more likely that she is just able to concentrate and screen you out as she is mesmerized by what she is doing. Make eye contact and you can redirect her focus to listen.

I was always one for praise and positive re-enforcement when they do respond at the first direction than punishment when they don't on the second or third direction. But then mine also knew from before two I only asked "nice" once. If I had to get up to make them do what I said there would be a consequence.

Sometimes modeling behavior is helpful. If your child only gets a response the third time they ask that is what you will get.

well what is she doing when you talk to her? engrossed in t.v, a game, or playing with toys?

a lot of times, i have to actually turn off the t.v. if i want a response from my kids because they are completely zoned out.

I haven't done the professional hearing test because of the fact that when I say a word she WANTS to hear, she magically can hear everything I say. lol.

Sounds like my ex. LOL

It's mostly about consequences and consistency. Negative behaviour should always have negative consequences. You let it slide and they will always test to see if you're serious.

At that age it IS constant testing

You just have to be one step ahead constantly!!

Thanks for the input everyone!