How does everyone feel about letting their kids become Involved in their social life?

I absolutly keep my life with men very seperate from my life as mom

I feel they don't have to me involved unless our relationship becomes really serious

What do you do?

No one I date meets my daughter, unless it has gotten to the point that it is very serious and we're starting to discuss long term plans. I will not risk her getting attached and then hurt if things don't work out, and it's not fair to the guy, either.

i do the same thing gossipmpm, i have been single since before my daughter was born(long story) but after not dating for the past 8 yrs, i think it is very wise to shield my daughter from any chance of getting attached to a person and then losing that person after the relationship does not work out. i never want my daughter to have a broken heart, i know i can not really prevent that but i can help to put it off for a few years

Ive yet to date since becoming a father. I dont screen a woman to see what kind of mother she would be(he has one), but I am going to be more picky about potential dates. Anyone in my life will end up being in my sons life by default.

My son is 15 so unlike a smaller child I don't feel that he would get attached easily at all to someone I am dating. I normally do not let him meet anyone I am dating unless we've been dating for a while. He makes dating difficult though as he never likes anyone because he's set on me never being with anyone...

that's easy: i don't date. as in ever.

i did a few years ago, and i never introduced my kids to anyone unless i'd been with that person for a full six months...which means that my children have met all of one guy since my ex and i split up eight years ago.

maybe when they are older; for now, i've decided that i want to spend all of my spare time with them, not be divided in other directions.

oh, and i like having the remote.

My girls know about my dating misadventures.
They worry about me meeting "strange women from the internet"
They want their Dad to be happy and to enjoy life.

But no, they haven't met anyone that I have dated.

my son is 2 and he takes care of my dateing time lol no really it have to be long term relationship before id bring him in the pic

I think it depends on your definition of involved.

If it means keeping them so seperate that they don't see how healthy relationships develope I think that plays into the view that "Kaboom you meet someone and you are all in love" which is not all that healthy.

If it means they are stepping into your personal family life and the individual is developeing what I would consider a premature relationship with your child and visa versa then no I think that is very unwise.

Since I would not bring anyone around my child's evironment until I have "checked them out" it was not an early introduction.

If I dated someone and I opted not to see them again I generally told my children an age approriate reason. It made a rather natural education of how I thought relationships should go.

Since I had a profoundly handicapped child and some men made it clear that it was more than they thought they were up to I did not tell my children that to protect them until I thought they had the skills to deal with it.

i used to protect my son, but he never liked anyone i dated, and once we got serious, i was hooked...if i had it to do all over again, you can bet they would have to pass the test with my son first, and would today...JMHO

I've been raising them alone for almost 10 years

The fivecof us are verycconnected

Some are older. Yes on thief own

Bringing a man in the mix of all women could be a total disaster!
They are all extremely protective of me!

I don't introduce my son to who I date, not unless I have been with someone for a bit.

Dito...it is my policy that I do not bring my kids into a relationship unless I am sure that to the best of my knowledge they are not going to get hurt. Under most circumstances I do not bring my kids into my personal life.

I see everyone feelscthe same or close to it

So I think I'm gonna stick to my guns

My girls are everything and they come first

Just wish some men could understand the bond between us

Many men unfortunatley do not have the benefit of having a bond with there children....is heart braking in a way I guess...I can tell you Tammy that I love my children more than anything in this world and protect them just the same....Keep hope though Tammy the right man will come...

Amen! Good move... never get your children involve with any relationship you have with men unless you and him are getting serious and are talking about getting married.

Thanks

You sound like a "nice" man
(see they are out there girls!)

And a great dad!!

Thanks


U 2 Modela!!

I go to places where kids ARE a part of the social life.

Wonderful people (for the most part) can be found.

Camping.
Picnic sites.
Nature trails.(my kids like this but think I'm to slow - disabled does not meen cant do it.

BONUS - you have a GREAT time with your children... and there are a LOT of nice single women on those very same trails guys.

Ditto.....it's not threatening to a child to meet a friend in a nice kid friendly place. I can understand trying to protect your children, but incorporating friends into your activities to me, is just natural. They don't need to know your deep down feelings on the person. If we develop friends first that way, it takes down the level of insecurities in the kids too. They see the person for who they are, and not as mom or dad's "date".

Its a great filter also.

There ain't no hiding from children. In that evironment they can spot the fakes real quick.