I knew a guy who said he asked every girl he met,"hey you wanna ****"? I said damn I bet you get slapped in the face a lot and he said yeah but I get laid a lot to.
I dont know, if you are straight about what you don't want it may weed out a lot of dill wads !! Isn't funny a lot of us do not know what we want but we sure as hell know what we don't want ??!!!

Thats not good..........

Ahh, but see.... we need to know what we need, not what we want. But I get you, and agree.

What I don't get is how when I was younger, the guys I dated didn't want a serious relationship, and now that I'm older it's all they seem to want. What happened to the idea of a non-serious, non-committed relationship that I never wanted when I was younger? Now that I want to just get out and have a good time, I can't seem to find anyone with the same mind-set? No, I'm not talking about running around having sex with random strangers, but more like an activity partner. Am I expecting too much?

be honest from the begining
be straight up and be your self SCREW THE RULES
be your self! cheers have fun!

I agree in principle, but in practice it's a differant story. I have found that women don't want to know everything too soon. They enjoy a little mystery. I'm sure it's the same with men. If you lay all your cards on the table too soon it's gome over.

You can't simply say "I like you" to a woman. She'll blow you off every time. She knows she can have you, so she doesn't want you. But, if I can send her mixed singles, she'll be all over me every time.

You mean asking the waitress to drop off a mixture of older bills and newer bills? Why not fives or tens?

I always ask for singles.......

There are rules to dating?

I would think that should be something you bring up within the first couple weeks of knowing them especially if you are seeing alot of each other. Personally I let it be known right away that I will not be having anymore children and I am moving slowly on the long term thing so if they are in a rush I am not the one.

RE: I agree in principle, but in practice it's a differant story. I have found that women don't want to know everything too soon. They enjoy a little mystery. I'm sure it's the same with men. If you lay all your cards on the table too soon it's gome over.

You can't simply say "I like you" to a woman. She'll blow you off every time. She knows she can have you, so she doesn't want you. But, if I can send her mixed singles, she'll be all over me every time.......

not true for me at all! I like honesty from the begining
and if the game is over then thats all it was
a game then its not worth my time or effort
Honest doesnt mean you have to spill your guts all at once if your asked questions be honest let it flow from there if they dont like
its not ment to be so why force it

I see I've been misunderstood.

When I say "the game" I am refering to the human mating dance, (for lack of a better word) not some kind of head game. Yes, a woman does want to hear that a man likes her. But, she doesn't want to hear it too soon. How can he like her if he doesn't yet know her? Saying he likes her too soon makes her feel uncomfortable and makes him appear needy.

Sending mixed singles is the art of flirting. You say "I'm starting to feel attractede to you. Maybe you should stand on the other side of the room." Sending mixed singles creates mystery. What do we chase? We chase that which retreats from us.

This is the game we all play. We all want to be played. We LOVE to be played. When a we are played we will feel a roller coaster of emotions. We feel the spark of a real connection. It happens so fast, in the wink of an eye. Your thoughts don't matter, only the feelings. You may do things you never thought you'd do, like have sex with a stranger in a bathroom stall.

That is what keeps our species going. That is why we are here.

sex in a bathroom stall...hummmm
not sounding very appealing, but thats just me

Have you never felt that kind of emotional rush? The kind that all that mattered was following the feeling? When you didn't care about what others might think?

Pity.

yeah, if memory serves and it still does. Not a pity at all...

Scoundrel, I see your point, and I also agree, to a point. It's something I've been waiting for to happen to me. When I say waiting, I mean that I go out and and expose myself to possibility, but I don't push for it or rush for it. It's that wonderous feeling of being alive, being wanted, being needed even, if just for that brief time. Maybe I'm freaky that way, I dunno, but I want to experience that overwhelming instant need. Isn't that kinda what you're talking about? I mean, at least I'm being honest, lol!

RULES!?! We don't need no steenking rules!

that's what your mingle HEADLINE is for!!

I get alot of things out in the open usually when chatting before we even go on a date