help with dinner, dishes, make the bed they let u sleep in, etc are all good ideas to follow

Ummmmmmmm my sister.....I dislike it when she comes here. Her house is spotless yet she comes here and messes it up.

She puts pens and junk in my fruit bowl and leaves the bathroom light on.......gaaaaaaaaaaaawd she makes me crazy.

When im a house guest, i dont take anything for granted, i dont help myself, and i make sure i express my gratitude at every opportunity.

Ive stayed at papersmiles house (which is my dream home btw!) and she was just a superb hostess. Of course, I am hoping she will make it to England some day so we can return the favour!

That can also be said for lighthouselover, a wonderful hostess who kindly put me and Dan up while we were in Michigan.

Thanks again ladies!

leaving a gift of some type for who you've stayed with has always been a thing I've done...family or not...

we all live differently....sometimes just gotta put up with others...quirks for that short time..smiles...

The way I see it if you are going to stay at someone elses house help out while you are there. They are not your maid & cook. Pitch in make things easier. Have them run you to the store so you can in fact get those things you like to have and a few extra things as well to help plan a few meals while your there. Make sure after you are finished in the bathroom ect clean up after yourself. Don't make yourself a burden on someone help them enjoy your stay as well. And you may be invited back.

tolerate it, while at the same time laugh and poke fun at them behind their back.



really? robin and i would love to see england! (hee hee)

you and dan were wonderful guests and i'd be happy to house you for any stay, even a lengthy one.

And would you say something to them afterwards? After the bad behavior?

I would say something like'

you are an azz. I severely misjudged you. My Mistake. It will never happen, again. Now get out of the car and take a cab!

I had a few roommates that I didn't like. But I never had a major problem with any houseguests.

I have a family member who comes over, bringe her dogs, and expects me to walk them and pick up their poop!

probably not, but they wouldn't get another invite to come back.

No... I'm sorry.. this was an addendum to my question. If you brought someone with you to family's... and they behaved badly at your relatives house. Let's say you were going on a family vacation, to see family, and you brought along a friend.

Yes, I'm talking about me...

if 'my friend' misbehaved or didn't behave accordingly, I'd remove him from my folks/families home. 2 choices - get a room locally or return home.

good luck

Well, my family has great manners, so we just tolerated it.

There weer other things too, like her hurting myfeeilngs by being critical of me, and her behavior towards my son. So it was a compound issue.

Have you discussed with her? Wish I had that amount of self control!

I'm sorry you are still hurting from the loss of your BFF (?)

Trying to analyze the "why's" of her behavior will not give you peace.

But I do know some "people" in your region....if you need "beat down" completed....Let me know!

Here's a good horror houseguest story for ya'll to enjoy

Many years ago when I was married an my 3 oldest were little the in-laws came to visit. We lived on base in a 3 bdr military housin unit. Not exactly spacious. It was Myself, my husband at the time, our 3 kids aged 5,4 an 2 at the time. The mother-in-law, father-in-law, sister-in-law, brother-in-law an their 2 small children came to visit. They were there for a week too long. Not once did any of them cook, clean up after themselves, offer to go to the store, Nuthin! Bein southern, I remained the gracious host the entire time. Needless to say, I never extended another invitation.

You are too sweet!

Myself, I wouldn't think twice about telling them to act right or get the hell out!
If they rode with me.. Enjoy your taxi / bus ride home.

My house is not Motel 6, no I don't leave the light on, if u come to stay with me, ya better pick after urself an after I've cooked u a few meals u better offer to take me out for a nice steak dinner!

No, I'm not a all trying to analyze the whys. What I'm trying to do is see if my expectations were abnormal.

Here are my expectations:
Clean up after yourself.
Listen to the advice given as to my family's quirks.
Pay your own way, and offer.
Offer to help with dishes/groceries/cooking.
Do not criticize your host, friend, or friend's child.
Do not expect special accomodations.
Do not sleep all day.
If you are going somewhere, let someone know.
Don't text incessently.
Don't tell detailed childhood stories, much less more than once.
Thank your hosts, and follow up with a card, flowers, at least an e-mail.