Well i cant answer this one. I have no theory even on why the local women would not want to at least try talking to you in the first place.

hmmmm

Maybe your photos? You cant really see what you look like in them. Maybe its the loooong intimidating profile, or the selection criteria? i really dont know.

The only consistent thing that's come up has been the "intimidating" issue.

And let's face it, anyone who is intimidated by someone who can write, is not a good match for me. Because just about all I DO is write.

I dont know that people do find it intimidating, but there is that possibility. Maybe it just seems like harder work to respond to and talk about all the stuff in there.

Maybe people would rather find it out by talking to you over time, rather than all at once in a short novel.

There are a lot of maybes being banded about. Its because i dont know a thing. Maybe i should be quiet.

No, I appreciate your input.

And I think maybe you have a better perspective than most, simply because you have read the sort of thing I do when I'm not writing on here. If anything, it gives you a better scope of understanding of me and my writing, in terms of style and structure.

You're assuming that the women not interested in you are intimidated by your intelligence. Do you make room for the possibility that it might be something else? (I didn't read the entire thread, so I apologize for any repeats).


Intelligence is manifested in many ways, not just academically. Some people show their intelligence through wit, some show intelligence through their ability to read people, some show it through their successful social interractions. Some people are intelligent in their choices to post or refrain from posting on a certain topic and some people have the ability to wax philosophically about all manner of minutia and make it entertaining (a quality that I admire in others).

There ARE great profiles that are cleverly written, yet still spelled correctly! And I think that when people claim to want a partner who is intelligent, they don't just mean philosphically...I think most people would prefer a well-rounded form of intelligence. I place intelligence high on my list of dating requirements, but I don't want a brainiac who lacks a sense of humor and social skills.

No, I'm really not assuming anything. That's what they're constantly telling me.



I pretty much limit myself to looking at Mutual Match profiles now. They tend to be pretty dismal. I have seen some really good ones in Rate My Profile (never anyone local!) and I always try to give credit where it's due if/when I see a good one.

i ride the short bus. while doing so, i wear a helmet and a pair of water wings.

But are you a "nice guy"?

oh hells yeah! but girls dont want nice guys. they say they do, but they dont.

smell my finger!