If you met someone with most of what you were looking for... Would you expect them to change that part of themselves you wern't looking for.

Conversely...

Would you change at the request of another to be more compatible with what they expected?

If yes then why?
If no then why?

nope on both. they are who they are just like I am who I am. I change for myself and no one else and wouldn't expect someone to change for me

I agree with yellowrose10.

I guess that would depend on what the change would be, I mean if it's something small and easy to adjust to sure, for example if I found someone and they didn't like the way I folded my shirts, whats the harm?

But as far as big things I don't think so.

Depends on the changes.
If they will help you as a person and in your relationship, then change shouldn't be refused. Compromise is always what helps any situation.

in my experience, people don't change for others and expecting them to do so will only result in disappointment and even resentment. a relationship should be two people cherishing their similarities and accepting and understanding their differences. i wouldn't change for someone else and i don't expect someone to change for me.

This question is moot, this is not human nature; the only person who likes to hear the word "change" is a baby with a full diaper. We make accomodations for each other, but no real changes, unless it is something we didn't care about in the first place.

barvo! Do you know where i find thaT? lol

searching! i'll keep you posted if he has a brother!

Ecelent Ill do the same

On some level, I think a certain amount of change is inevitable. Maybe "change" is the wrong word -- let's call it "adjustment."

There is a value in being able to have a certain flexibility for someone you love.

But I'm speaking hypothetically, because pretty much everyone I've ever been with has tried to change me -- in the most radical (and unacceptable) of ways.

So, having to make a minor change (adjustment) here and there would be practically paradise, compared to what I've been through.

change is inevitable and welcome.
dance with me.

No way!!'

He can be whoever he is. Flaws and all

And he should let me be me

That's what makes the relationship world
Go round and round...,

That's a fact. You can always try to make yourself a better person, but we should not have to change who we are for anyone.

Not even photoshop can change me

I wouldn't change anything about myself, unless it is something that I didn't like...Which I am learning these things now.

There's going to be some compromise in any relationship, but actually changing a person is very tough. I wouldn't do it, however it can be done. It just takes some serious subtle manipulation.

WOW, what a cutie...wish I was 14 years younger

Now I'm all bashful.

I doubt that

But if so, trust me, you will get use to me soon enough...

Though next time we have a Texas Meet, you MUST promise to come.
If nothing else to be our "eye candy"