Doesn't exactly work that way, it's a stranger meeting site, so once someone disconnects you get thrown back into the mix, and the next person you are matched up with is totally random. The odds of being matched up again are very slim, the phone would probably be the only way I would speak with her again. Though I could go on the site one night just looking for her specifically till I found her.

Bit stalkerish? Not the end of the world, billions of women left. We all lose one or two in the fray, but if we hang onto that one or two...we don't give others a fair opportunity.

What I'm getting is, this site is a place to go where you're bored and just want to talk to a random person, right? Like it's not personal and anyone will do? If that's the case, if I wanted to go on a site like that, I wouldn't be interested in talking to anyone from there on a personal level in "real life." It sounds like a place you go to just unwind and have casual chats with strangers, not a place where you go to find a lasting relationship.

My point is, if she was only there for casual chat, I'm not sure if she'll want a phone conversation with someone from there. Does that make sense? It's like the phone personalizes it. I've talked to guys in chat rooms, and had a good time talking to them, but when they mentioned the phone or texting, or something, they freaked me out and I bailed.

Good luck though, since you want this to work out.

Patience young Paduwon....

There is an old proverb that was true when Jesus said it and is still true today....

"You can't hurry Love.
No, you just have to wait.
Love don't come easy...it's a game of give and take."

that too.

Did I hear you say that you don't have an email address??

gmail.com
hotmail.com


Try these out!!

Because according to some people on this website, they are outta our league.

But really, once a phone number is mentioned, the other person can get weirded out or nervous. Some people are different.

Did you know you can get someone's home address and other info from a phone number??? They freak out for a reason.

Being out of someone's league shouldn't be an insult to you, you told a woman earlier you wouldn't date her because she was older than you, so that makes her out of your league. See, you can be special too!

Maybe she has no arms and has to dial a phone with a pencil attached to her forehead but can't find a pencil? Sometimes there's a perfectly good explanation that we just wouldn't think of.

that prospect just made me cry

I really didn't take that as an insult. She is 11 years older than me. I would be too immature anyways, and the age difference is weird. I am special.

Kleisto, where have you been????

Way over thinking it Dude, you are young, take your time.
Whats the hurry?????

She has your number, if she wants she'll call, if not, move on Bro'

the young want everything now. damn kids

well put puppy love is so innocent yet ignorance follows

i know, i was just making a point you're right though, about the maturity factor.

Update it has now been a few days and have not heard a thing from her, so I've sort of resigned myself to the fact that she won't be calling.....sigh it feels like the story of my life lately. Everyone I seem to meet doesn't seem to work out.

I met two other people on this site I met the girl I've talked of here at, one I was interested in got disconnected with mid conversation, while the other we actually exchanged facebooks, only for her to delete me without warning yesterday after just meeting the night before. Think it may have had something to do with a comment I made in talking about how I don't relate to many my age. I told her I don't drink at all, and then added that if I did it was very very very rare, and even then just maybe like a glass of wine at a restaurant or something. Next thing I know, she left and that was the end of her. Maybe it was a bad choice of words on my part, but it hurt. I thought there was a shot there possibly with her, but it came and went like that, and she didn't even have the decency to tell me.

Maybe I'm trying too hard I don't know, and need to back off a bit. I feel like everything I touch lately is turning to crap to be honest. There is someone here I started chatting with though that I am a bit interested in, so maybe that will go somewhere, but otherwise I don't know what to think sometimes.

Where's BillySuvol??

Billy!?!?

we need to pip this boy, he's about pippin age, and it's time

I don't need to worry about making myself look like a jerk on the message boards, I've already done a great job at that, so I'm gonna tell you this man to man and I don't care what self-rightious, judgemental female hears it and trys to bash me. A point that should be more than clear to that type of girl by now.

Dude. You are beating on yourself when you should be giving yourself praise and seeing a young well adjusted man in this position makes me sick to my stomach. Try this, the next rejection you get, hell aply it to this one, ask yourself one question????? Would you want to be with someone that blows off someone like you that quickly. You have a lot of good traits and a bright future, and you need to get out of this mindset of "not being good enough" for them. **** them. There's a billion women in the world that you are not going to see eye to eye with, every time one blows you off, cross her off the list and keep looking for the one that you deserve. Don't worry about the ones that blow your off.

I know right? I don't have any idea about your situation and how hard it is for you, right? RIGHT? Guess what, I was a virgin until I was older than you and had only kissed maybe one or two girls in my life and to this moment I'm wondering if they were just drunk. You need to stop playing this victim role and take some responsibility for your situation, grow a set and take the bad in stride, knowing that the good will be on the other end. If some ***** doesn't like you because you don't drink that's her perogative (sorry for the spelling, drunk) and that's not someone you want to be with. Pure and simple. She's for someone else that likes drunk chicks. Just do a search on here for women that claim not to drink, there's a million of 'em, and being one of the few guys that falls into the category, you've got access to the whole buffet. I find girls all the time that I would love to date that won't give me a second look because I do drink. or because I'm upfront and honest with my thoughts, or because I don't give a @@@@ about drama and won't tolerate it, or because I'm a male (that lesbian that I met a couple weeks ago is my kinda woman).

Consider yourself lucky when you find out it isn't going to work prior to a year or two of dating one and then having it go sour.

Basically, you're looking at this the wrong way. You should be seeing it as weeding them out, not them rejecting you.


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and now the violent womens club of mingle is going to bash me, so I'm off to hide in another thread.

She's not calling
Cause she couldn't give a rats ***!

She played and toyed with ya
Got ya going
Left
Laughed
Went on to the next one

Just move on
Such is the on-line life

Toughen up or they will eat you alive!!

ex-zachary

Few things here to clarify, this woman that blew me off as you said, she doesn't drink at all either, and it was only after I said if I did do it it was very very very rare, that she up and left me high and dry.

Second, I actually just got out of a long relationship too kinda, albeit online, knew/known her just over 10 months, and we argued a lot too over different things. Long story, but the end of it is she still feels it could be worked out, but I really don't anymore kinda tired of the drama, hence why I find myself here again today.