Joy, someone that really cared about you, or what makes you happy, or what you enjoy ( and I put your job in that because it seems like more than just a job), would not ask you to change, would not say those things. He'd say something like, he's in for the long haul, we'll make it work, I just want to be with you. Don't you think?

yes, I think.. It was said to me tonight.. And what got me thinking was I called one of my assistants to ask her a quick question.. Mind you she is paid hourly and was off the clock for about 3 hrs but I was still working and wanted to make sure she understood something for her welfare... In the end we got to chatting about all kinds of stuff, we talked for about 2 hrs.. Her husband walked in and started "yelling" and I mean yelling at her b/c she was on the phone... we hung up.. it got me to thinking of a time a couple of years ago when my ex used to get made at me and how mad he'd get.. I was working not "chatting" and then on top of that I was told I push people away.. i.e. the reason the thread came to be... lol

Yikes. Well firstly, that husband should have waited until his wife got off of the phone and asked a few questions before he made an *** out of himself. I think some people are just jealous of time/attention, period, whether it's to a job, or even a child taking away from THEIR time.

I agree.. Been there, experienced done that, own the t-shirt..

Hugs Joy. Time for bed. Nite

g'night ((Connie))

I disagree. You are in a position of power over the employee and some may consider this abuse.

Roko

No

I make mistakes that people take differently, but I hardly think I make them on purpose to push anyone away...some people respond differently than others, one person might not care and another explode in anger.

I don't think this is something that could be controlled beyond a conscious mind, I think you would have to be fully aware considering it wouldn't be done in any other state of mind.

I think we have all done this

I am told that ALL of time. I usually know I do (after it is too late) and I am finally trying to work on these types of things.

i know i do,i always screw it up somehow

yes , i dont let anyone get to close to me !
and if they do ,i run like hell ....