Here I am sitting at home alone again. At the age of 47 , I cannot for
the life of me figure out how to get along with a woman where both of us
can be happy. This last relationship has cost me in more ways than just
money, but believe me, after 5 years, I have spent enough time and money
and even went to counseling, to no avail. I try to do the right thing
and everytime I come out a looser. So, here I am for yet another
weekend, alone and unable even to go out for a burger even if I wanted
to.

Well, what seems to be the problem? When you say "get along," is there a
specific issue you find yourself at odd with, with your partners? What
is the right thing you try to do? Why can't you go out for a burger
alone? I do it all the time!

SMOKE SOME WEED, THEN YOULL BE HUNGRY ENOUGH FOR A BURGER

The right thing,,, I have always taken responsibility for my actions,
right , wrong or indifferent. I have very little to no tolorance for
people who dont . I dont blame the world for my mistakes, I ask that the
people who I consider to be friends to do the same. I work, pay my bills
first, save a little , dont drink or do drugs. I am in truth a very
angry and violent man who controls himself in as much that I dont go
around picking fights, I dont beat up or abuse women. I place women on a
pedstal and worship them. I was not abused as a child, and even if I
were, I would not say that I was because childern need to know right
from wrong. My last relationship, the lady left me as she said that I
could not trust her. That I was like a rock and she was like sand in
that she shifted everytime that I ask her to do something. So, what am I
doing wrong? Do I expect too much?

I think you said it yourself, that you're angry and violent. You might
want to speak with a professional about those issues as they can ruin an
otherwise good relationship or keep a new one from getting off the
ground.

I did say that I controlled that part of me. I drive a car and ride a
motorcycle but road rage dosent comsume me everytime someone else does
something dumb, I own a gun, but my gun has killed fewer people than ted
kennedy's car, I dont start fights, I have been in a few and they hurt
even if you win the fight, and I have had counselings, Did it help, I
dont know. It did bring to my eyes that there are alot of other people
who have it badder off than I do.

When the lady said she did not trust you, maybe she had trouble trusting
herself, maybe the issue of trust was with her, not the person she was
with. What didn't she trust you about?

She said she could trust me, but that I could not trust her.

The fact that you're, by your own admission, an "angry and violent man,"
while it may be "under control," the likelihood of an "outburst" may be
just boiling beneath the surface, and this may well be evident to those
around you.

Before you can have any healthy relationships, you need to get to the
point where even YOU can say you're not an "angry and violent" man. To
even read such a statement gives me the heebie-jeebies.

Another thing is saying that you put women on a pedestal and worship
them. For me, that's a complete turnoff. I can't speak for other women,
but I certainly don't want to be put on a pedestal and worshipped. I'm a
woman, not a statue of some kind of a saint. Who can live up to that
kind of "adoration?" Not me, that's for sure.

What Jean said.

Thank you all, I have to go to work early , so Imm goimg to bed. Thank
you again for the examination and I will think about what all of you
have said tonight.

Goodnight, and thanks for trusting us enough to be honest with us.