we hi all im new here and feeling a little sorry for myself, a few weeks ago my husband told me that he didnt know if he loved me anymore well we went to counselling and things (i thought) we going good i asked him how he was and he said he felt happy that we were going to counselling then a couple of days ago he said that he still wants out, im so angry at him and myself for believing in it all i feel stuck in a rut he is moving out soon but he still hugs me etc im confused and feel lonely im hurting so much but i keep telling him that im doing ok how long can i keep this outter exterior going before i crumble....

Crumble. I mean it, there is more empowerment in being honest, than s*cking it up...

Tell him how you feel, what you are confused with, what his behaviours and his words do to you.

It might not make him stay, but it is the first step in becoming the complete YOU.

Why are you pretending? For whom? It is certainly not doing you any favours...

I feel for you, such a horrible time...know you have compassionate people here who will listen to you, and try their best to support you.

My thoughts are that you should likely be speaking to him about these things. Pain takes as long as it takes. Are you hear to seek advice, save a marriage or promote your product? I can't say that I am sure which.

extremely well said jesse
bravo *applauds*

I just read the profile Connie.....hmmmm...if I get a recruitment, I'll let you know, after I report it.

Pssst...wtf is that promotion party thing anyways?

I've never heard of it....us poor ex convicts down here in the colonies are missing out.......allegedly.

I always read the profile first

Host an ann sommers party and feel better?

No thanks biker.I'll just have a beer !

I have no idea what an english ann sommers party is. But they are evidently hosted.

She is gone, deactivated.
One and Done.
Back to where she came from taking solace I hope.

Wonder if she got any bookings ?

I empathize.

Love is not easy to gain, and harder to let go of.

Try the counseling.
Try to be objective.
Get some honest input from others.

In my case, divorce was liberation from an entire family of negative people. It was necessary and good for me.

My kids and I have a great relationship.

Do not punish yourself for having faith in and investing in the relationship. It is testimony to your good character.

Should you divorce . . . only time will heal you and once you are outside of the relationship, objectivity will begin to reveal truths you may be blind to now.

Work on improving yourself financially, physically, spiritually, with relationships in family & friends, hobbies, etc. What's the worst that can happen? You will be improved.

My prayers,

Bry

To quote a movie, "Show him your pallet." And if that doesn't work,
leave him, and start mingling and socializing. When my exgf broke up with me, 5 years ago, the emotional suffering lasted at least 3 years. But there's more to life than suffering, so don't give up on life.

It wasn't me!!! I didn't do it!!!

Not this time.....