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Edited by
michiganman3
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Sat 06/20/09 05:32 AM
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So does this mean when women say "I just want to be friends" that they are either scared or suffer from bipolar? 
No Way, and don't even suggest it's hormonal either.
Yeah, things were going OK for me too, and I wanted to discuss 'where our relationship was heading' before I made some weekly time commitments. Haven't heard from her since................ And this is after 10 months. |
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It was probably as simple as a fear of commitment,maybe the guy felt he was being rushed into something he wasn't ready for,sometimes a guy can have feelings for a woman but not ready to take to the next level,what's so terrible about being friends for a while if you really like this guy,I might get in trouble for this but don't you just love it when woman are asked about men,if you want to know something about men ask a man,woman are still guessing about us as much as we guess about them,I am not saying all men are alike,but there are some generalities about men that are similar,I myself have felt like I was being pushed to quick in a relationship,sometimes the guy just isn't ready,so let's stop blaming the guy all the time,there are two in a relationship after all.
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Look all I know is that he wanted it this way. Then blows me off because he likes me?! Maybe he is screwed up or his ex did a number on him but... why couldn't he talk to me? We never had a problem before about specking your mind. Why now?
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Bipolar..is all I can think of. Better off without him. Keep your head up... is all I can advise ya! Take care, Gracy 
More often I see this as Borderline Personality Disorder, these people need to set things up and then sabotage themselves in order to play the victim. Not saying this is so in your case. But either way, if he can not explain, its better he left than to live with a loony bird on your hands. |
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I was seeing someone for a little over a year and everything was great. He would come over, hangout, we laugh, other things, and that's how I liked it. But then he tells me that he can't see me anymore because... I treat him well, we get along, and he likes me. Am I missing something here?! He would tell me how I was the only woman who could please him, how he felt he tell me anything and how I wouldn't judge him, and how well my children are well grounded. If i'm so great.... Why did he ruin a good thing? I keep going back to was it something I did? and if he truly felt that he could talk to me about anything... Why didn't he? Hes an AZZ! |
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So does this mean when women say "I just want to be friends" that they are either scared or suffer from bipolar?
If I hear " I just want to be friends," from either male or female, to me it means---- You are not going to sleep with or have sex the other person, you are good enough for conversation only. JMO |
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why ask why ...
what is done -is done .... move on with your life ....... you are still young and very beautiful ! 
you will find the right one before you know it !
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Fear & Loathing says - which is why I'm not seeking a relationship anymore. Yeah, sure. It's what kind of a relationship do you want? Friends, Best friends, lovers, marriage etc. We all want interaction with other people - that's called a relationship! Well, personally, I'm only looking for friends...but apparently according to this thread, I'm bipolar or scared... |
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No that's not it at all. I just wanted some sort of clue of what was going on. I just thought i was missing something cause if you like someone, you get along, and treat someone well why would u want to stop seeing them? I do miss him but i'm not gonna stop looking for someone either and when i do find someone he's gonna realize that he had he chance and blew it.
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No that's not it at all. I just wanted some sort of clue of what was going on. I just thought i was missing something cause if you like someone, you get along, and treat someone well why would u want to stop seeing them? I do miss him but i'm not gonna stop looking for someone either and when i do find someone he's gonna realize that he had he chance and blew it. As long as I've lived, which isn't that long mind you...I've seen tons of people get into relationships, then break up, and have absolutely nothing afterwards. When you have a friend the last thing you want is to lose that friendship, and usually a relationship beyond friendship is a pretty good way to screw that up. I've lost a good amount of potentially very good friends because we pursued a relationship beyond friendship, I regret just about all of them...do I look back at it and say "I had a chance and blew it"? No, I look back at it and regret it going as far as it did. I don't speak for him, but I do find it funny all the judgemental posts that have flamed onto this topic...so why not go with the majority and just say he suffers from bipolar or is scared...why do I care? |
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I'm gonna take an alternate perspective to everyone else.
Allow me to start by saying that in relationships we as people can only focus on ourselves and what we do for others. Some people are simply placed on this earth to affect and bless those who may be disfortuned or inopprotuned. In our nature, we only hope to find that "match" that is not necessarily perfect, but meets the perfection of your purpose here on earth. Many people find their soul mates and keep them. Marry them, have beautiful kids, and live in the life of luxury in terms of love. However, some simply find those that may not perfectly match everything that they are about, yet their 50% equals the other's 50% and once you put them together, it equals a 100% of a heavenly blessed relationship. Thus, regardless of who enters and leaves our lives, we cannot be dependant on our relationships with those people, but moreso our relationship with a supernatural force that leads us to help those who need and eventually meet the one which He has planned for us. There is really no explanation for his actions in social sense, because no one can read his mind but the guy you were dating. So I encourage you to focus on you and your family, continue to be there for him in ways that you can handle. And eventually you will be blessed. All good deeds, reaps benefits... I have no doubt that in time understanding will be brought to you Good luck |
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Give me your phone number, I'll be your friend, or something more! ;-)
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