and yet others have 'offed' their ex -- or at least wished they would have!

a few months???? maybe he doesnt love you. not everyone is the same,in other words some fall in love when the wind blows. others it can take a long time. the man likes you and, from what i gather, is your boyfriend. give it time, dont rush things

Words are just words. Meaning comes from the context. You need to talk to him enough to understand his meanings and if you don't, you need to ask questions and/or talk to him some more.

If he doesn't want to talk to you, then you have a problem.

He's telling you your special
He says I like you

What don't you understand?

I don't mean to be the skeptic but the same thing happened to me. My boyfriend kept telling me he "liked me" and I was "special." It just didn't feel right. It felt like something was up. It seems as though you are having the same doubts that I did. I met him on another dating site and when we first started dating he told me among other things that he had posted some ads on Craigs list in the personals to try to find someone. On a hunch I looked on Craig's list and there he was posting ads with the title "Looking for Love." The day he posted that ad he sent me a text saying I was awesome and that he really liked me. He was still supposedly my boyfriend! I'm not saying that this is what is going on with your boyfriend, I'm just saying trust your instincts. Mine are usually correct.

...Or you could take the easy road and just ask him, you know? Communication? One of the fundamental necessities in a relationship...

...Or you could take the easy road and just ask him, you know? Communication? One of the fundamental necessities in a relationship...


I did ask him. We had a conversation about being exclusive and I asked him if he ever felt differently to please just tell me. I would rather know than be strung along. He promised up and down that he wanted to be with only me. I did my part on the communication end, I guess he was just a jerk.

Those are generally the kinds of words that lead up to being told they love you. "You're special, I'm falling for you" etc. Don't rush things. It will be what it is meant to be in due time.

I tried to talk to him. But he shut down. And he can't say how he feels about me to my face. Only on phone or in email. If he really means what he says-why does he chock on the words? I doubt his sincerity...and then feel guilty for doubting him. Is he shy, or just a jerk?

oh and what about when they say they luv you........wtf is that?

Time will let that become clear.

I watched "He's Just Not Into You" the other day. It's given me a whole new perspective on the male psychy and how they communicate.