...How many times have we started to get to know some one on a site,
only to get the cold shoulder a week or two later.



...They leave you with no reason, or answer?


Do you find it riddling?


Or does it sting alil""


Or what?

Hi tulip,

I find it confusing.

SheNerd :)

I feel the pain of that one!
I am left wondering why I put myself out there....

Hi!


Me too!

First time around kinda painful .

Second time around riddling,
and feeling like , I lost the attraction.
So, either way it sucked.

I'm all for communication just say ......IT


Not interested anymore or something....


I hate games......

Just to understand ...

the title of the thread intimates that you wear your heart on your
sleeve and fall in love within a couple of weeks.

Is that right?

If that is, then how does that work? How do you get to know someone so
intimately in two months that you are in love with them?

Why would you then get to "scraping your heart off your monitor" after
two months of speaking to someone on the net?

Im sorry, did I miss something?

No you missed something Duncan;




I said attraction!



I cant love an email and a pic or two of either.

And getting to know

For me, it's not about falling in love. It is about communicating who I
am from within to be left in the dust.

Very simple.....They promise you the world and hand you a bag of trash.

Once or twice, maybe.

Nope wasn't promised anything still was to new.


but, felt baffling.

And as i said I stung once.

Now when we talk I feel nothing............


I feel like indifferent I guess....?

Not sure.?????????



They are not on this site!

disclaimer^^^^^

i did once.....but it wont happen again!!!

I am used to it.

As far as I'm concerned there is no relationship until we've actually
met in person.

I know that it's impossible for a woman to get to know me via emails.
I’m simply too unique, she would have nothing to reference to in her
past experience that would compare to me.

I would hope the same would be true of her.

I did not say relationship...........James

I was thinking in terms of your question suggesting that it might sting
a bit.

Seems to me for it to sting a person would have felt 'involved'.

I suppose that I have done that in the distant past. But anymore I
don't even get 'involved' until we've met in person. Too many floosies
out there.

I learned quick not to feel 'rejected' by someone who genuinely hasn't
even met me in person yet. Why should I feel rejected by some bimbo
who's jumping to conclusions that are most likely based on her past
experiences with men. Men who are totally unlike me.

The bottom line is that it’s simply impossible for a woman to know what
I’m like until she’s met me in person. Anything prior to that is just a
figment of her imagination. Therefore it’s impossible for her to reject
‘me’ before she even knows who I am.

So why should it ‘sting’?

I'm just trying to answer your question of why I don't find it
'riddling'. The woman is most likely basing her 'rejection' on some
conclusion that she has jumped to that has nothing at all to do with me.
Perhaps I had said something in an email that she took the wrong way, or
it reminded her of some jerk she knew in the past and she then put his
persona onto me.

All I'm saying is that it's impossible to actually know someone via
emails alone. And the reason is because we have a tendency to compare
them with other people from our past. It's the only 'reference' that we
have to draw on.

That's all I'm saying. I simply don't get emotionally 'invoved' at the
email stage.

That's all I meant by 'relationship'.

okeeeeeeeeeeee

james

ty

I've wiped a fair bit of coffee, and water, off my screen over the last
few months...maybe even some apple, or banana..

i've been there done that it hurts kinda, like real life