Hello Everyone,
I am having some problems in making a decision and I need someones advise on what to do.So here I go. I was in a relationship with a gemini about 1 year ago. Everything was going great we loved each others company and had a blast together. Also she said she didn't want a relationship. But ,we were together all the time so it ended up that way. She eventually said she loved me and I was the man of her dreams. few months later she told me she didn't love me and that she wasn't ready for a relationship???? That she just wanted to stop seeing me. I know what your thinking but,....I didnt do anything wrong. She just made this decision ...well I don't know why. I just figured she was nuts. it completely tore me up. I have never had anything like that happen to me like that. No one could believe she did that.

So now I started seeing a new girl .now I find out that she is a gemini and start to wonder about it. We have way more in common then I did with the other gemini. It made me start feeling better about dating a gemini. We were together for like a week hung out alot and had a few romantic evenings. She says she really likes me and wants to see me exclusive but ....lol...doesn't want a relationship. This is where I start getting worried again.Says she is scared of being hurt again . Same as other gemini said. But, she is the one that hurt me.

So now I am wondering what I should do. I mean it is almost exactly what happened before . She hasn't had the chance for me to fall in love with her . So the relationship has not got as far this time . I mean should I run for the hills or give her a chance. Knowing what the last gemini did to me. I know no 2 people are the same and I shouldn't hold it against another. But, it just almost seems like it is starting the same way. I mean she is a gemini also.

Any advise is appreciated

Tell her you want a relationship and see what she says.

doesn't matter she doesn't
she said that exactly

first of all... being a gemini isn't what the problem is. The problem is you are attracting unattachable women... that just so happen to be gemini's.

i don't know all about that.

it seems these girls really don't know what they want. some believe in the zodiac signs....gemini is the twin. but I suspect they just don't know what they want

And the "I want to be exclusive but I don't want a relationship" makes no sense. It's her way of playing it safe... so you can't date anyone else because you're "exclusive" however, if someone else does come along... or she wants to back out... she always has the "I told you we weren't in a relationship" in her back pocket.
You should have said... or tell her, No. That's not what I want. I want a relationship. I want this or that. If you're not putting out there what you really want and need... then you can't expect to get it.

I'm dealing with this right now... only the other way around. His ex was a doozy and I'm paying the price.

nice jill, I will have to bring that up and see what she says to that.

i thought "whats your sign" was just an old 70s pickup line. lol

LoL

I've seen guys pull that crap all the time. Refuse to commit to a relationship but you're still not allowed to see other people. That's just not OK. When it only benefits the other person... it's a red flag.

wow, i know that one! he was history real fast. lol

Well I don't think she is a player.She is a good hearted church going country girl. i just don't see her being a player. If anything terified of being hurt again.

never said she was a player. Oh and a church going country girl does not equal innocent . She very well may be terrified of getting hurt, but who isn't?? That doesnt mean what she's doing is OK. She needs to deal with her feelings or not be dating altogether until she's ready. Tell her "I can see you're not ready for what I'm looking for... and I respect that... so I will offer you the space that you need and help if I can. However, I can't be exclusive with you at this point. Maybe down the road, we will re-evaluate things and maybe we can try again"

I don't really go into the zodiac signs, but I will tell you that I'm a Gemini. The funny thing...I want a relationship, but don't want one. For me, if I'm not with the right person, I feel trapped. That's why I'm waiting for the right one to come along. I would not put too much interest in the girl you are seeing. If she shows that she is really interested and want to be in a relationship, then give her a chance. If she still doesn't want to be in a relationship, you should let her go and move on. You don't want to waste your time with someone that is not sure what they want. I don't think girls who fall under a Gemini should be labeled...any girl could act like this no matter their sign. But hey, what do I know. I hope things work out for you.

Jill , You angel you. That is exactly the advise I am looking for.

I've been hurt badly by someone only to protect himself from getting hurt. They get scared and paranoid, and they run to avoid the hurt. In the meantime... they don't realize how much hurt they are causing just so they can avoid being hurt. It's really pretty ironic and a vicious cycle that's hard to break.

So happy I can be of some help I truly hope things work out for you

Astrology is just a bunch of bunk.