Am I crazy? I have been in more than a few relationships and all of them I "tried to find a girlfriend." This recent break up I was with my ex for 3 years. And now I just want to meet somebody, become friends with them - meet somebody else - become friends with them - become friends with their friends and their friends and their friends and meet somebody else and their friends and then one day say to myself, "Ya know, I really like that person."

Am I crazy for trying it that way? What do you think?

Watch out, people suck meet too many of them and they might kill you.

friends first my policy

I tell you this much, by the time I think of a guy as "just a friend" there aint no way I'm ever letting him get any further than that.

However that's just me.

Not crazy at all.

I think it is a great idea. I have been making a lot of friends that way. Four years and I am still not married. Surprises even me. Didn't think I could make it single but am doing it. Just staying to myself and doing some growing up.

nothing beats benefits with friends

Dude... You're doing it wrong.

Most women won't admit to what I'm about to tell you...

When a woman meets a guy, she will have decided (consciously OR subconsciously) within the first 1 or 2 minutes if she is going to sleep with him or not... So even though she won't come out and say it, she will be the one making that decision, whether you two will be just friends or more than friends.

So you might as well try your luck with whichever girl you meet that you might find attractive. Stop with the friends bullcrap... Every girl i meet is a potential f**k buddy until I strike out miserably and then and only then I may consider them as a potential friend.

It's a game of numbers, keep striking out till you hit a home run.

...and you call yourself a mingler.

FOR SHAME!

Mahan Mahan!

crap i tried 1st time to reply it didn't work...anyway to op^^you are correct,i am a woman and i admit your statement is dead on.Men are very visual and if a woman is attractive she is deemed "fu**able,if not then the man enters the "friend zone"men are hard wired since creation existed.

Nope...try again.

S1owhand...

You crack me up...!

Most of us here have had our share of failed marriages and relationships. In my humble opinion, we are all socially dysfunctional, more or less. And I wouldn't take advice from any of you minglers (even though I love you all to death!)

So if Billy has chosen to take relationship advice from us looneys, then he might as well hear Mahan Mahan's warped and twisted views on dating.

Nope...not this one

I have no problem with your plan but I do have a question. These women you are trying to befriend, do you try to sleep with them? If a man wants to be my "friend", then that is ALL he will be!

If I am understanding correctly, he wants to make friends and hopefully in the meantime will find the friend that becomes "the one"....sounds like a plan to me!

I agree! It's a great plan but it has been my experience when meeting/dating men who are looking for "friends first", they spend most of the date trying to get me in the sack. Thus the flaw in the theory.

See... I don't get that! If I'm in a relationship and make friends with a lady, then sometime down the line, we both become single, I might want to sleep with that lady, but she won't want to cuz as you pointed, she has it set in stone that friends we are and that's it.

Please explain to me, Billy, and those playing along at home, why that is...

Why can't women be more flexible and bend the rules a bit...!

then those are simply the wrong kinds of friends