They are soooo hard! Sometimes I wonder if I am cut out for it. I feel disgruntled much of the time. When we are together it's really great, but the in-between times are hard.

Any tips for making it a little easier? Any success stories out there? Thanks!

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Toots, they are hard but if you both work at it I believe it can work. I just started one myself and just hearing his voice brightens my day. Not an easy road for sure but I've never done anything easy. Good Luck.

C

Yea they are hard

But I keep one of the cabana boys in the closet

Just in case!

lol....YOU need to talk to Badgirl and Sharpshooter They did it...very happily married in October....several couples on here that began with an ldr

Yeah.... {{{{Steven}}}}

They can work if you MAKE them work. Both parties that is... If you both work hard anything is possible.. other wise they seem to always fizzle out.. You to need to be on the same page with each other by communicating expectations while in the LTR.. Ones like the way you’ll communicate with each other.. how often and when.. hoe you two will see each other.. if the realtionship will remain monogamous and other challenges.. Make sure you CAN trust this person... if youve already questioned their faithfulness.. don't do it... because it will only compound your insecurities and make things worse later... Creativity is a biggie too.. Makes you two express feelings of wants, desries, love, and ect in different ways...Basically if you are strong enough to do it.. both of you.. and the realtionship is as well... go for it!

they dont work

You are painting with an awfully broad brush there.

Maybe you never tried.. or really wanted them to????

Well im not the person to listen too....but a lil piece of advise if you have a man that is willing to do his part in a ldr then you got it made....I got out of one not long ago because I found out he was cheating on me...so my advise is find a man that is wanting to do his part of makeing the ldr work...

Oh no! I'm very sorry that you had to go through that. {HUGS}

No, he doesn't cheat on me (at least to my knowledge! LOL), I'm not worried about that. He's just really busy with work, he owns his own business and it takes a lot of his time. He also helps take care of his mom, so that she doesn't have to go to a home. If it weren't for the busy-ness factor, we would see each other a lot more often. We have plans to travel and are talking about him moving out here (I have kids who need to be near their dad; he is single). He's a GREAT guy...I think sometimes I just need more than he has time to give right now. Or maybe I'm greedy, I dunno.

I'd like to think so. I certainly have the patience and devotion to pull it off.

I guess the best advice I could offer is to keep your expectations low and your appreciation for the times you do get to see each other high.

I'm in a very happy long distance relationship, and have been for a couple of years.

I always look at it this way: I'd rather have this guy in my life, and not see him nearly as much as I'd like, than to have any other man and be with him all the time. It certainly isn't for everyone, and it most definitely isn't conventional, but it seems to work quite well for both of us.

Paper, I meant to thank you earlier for your great advice when I had a similar question. I took it and don't regret it in the least. Thanks again.

truthfully and honestly...you cant ever be too greedy if you love someone that much...that is how I feel...at least...lol...but it will work out if yall keep working on it...I know how it is when your in a relationship where you have to take care of a parent I been there and done that...but hang in there im sure everything will work out...good things come to people that have patients and wait

You're welcome Chrissy. I hope you get as much pleasure and contentedness from yours, as I've had from mine.