What is it with guys wanting to have sex with you the first date? I understand that not all guys are like this but apparently that is all I seem to be meeting! I would really just like a nice night out with someone who doesn't care that we are not going to have sex the first date and who doesn't think about bringing up the subject. Thoughts?

Keep looking! They're out there.

there is a few and i mean a few but not to meny to mention lol

the stories i cld tell you...beats me. but if thats all they want they are not worth your breath!!!!!!!!!!!!!

DOG SCHOOL IS IN!


Dog Rule 10!: Go for every opportunity to bury your bone!

Dog Rule 11!: If she is sniffing (dating) then she wants it. (GRAND ASSUMPTION BUT MEN ARE VERY GOOD AT THAT)



Trust me, men as a normal rule of thumb are looking for any free meal they can come by.


Even I am sort of guilty harboring that desire but if I said I didn't I would be LYING hard to you. Not all of us are out for instant gratification but then again more men are. But I also live by Dog Rule #2: "as long as it does not smell bad why turn down a free meal?"


Remember...


A wet penis has no conscious! A dry one has no standards!


It is all part of the human condition so all you can do is tell him to back his horney self off of you and take a cold shower or rub it off in the comfort of his own bed. The you move on to the next episode...


Some of us are not bad unless we really want to be!!!


I never bring up sex on the first three dates myself. After that ABAO!!!

(All Bets Are Off...)

If a woman has a problem with that then she will not be dating me after that, now will she?

Keep your guard up!

Way to go Andy...I couldn't have said it better myself. Thumbs up to ya!

I never get sex on the first date. MEN, shsssssh!

Well most men are sex driven.
And alot of girls will put out on the first date.
SO you have those girls to thank for.

Men are very visual. Meeting a girl the first time, its very physical, since there is no other factors to really go by. He does not really know your likes and dislikes, or personality, nor does he really care at first. You set the parameters and limitations for this date, cuz the guy does not really have any. It's simple if you tell a guy:" I wanna have sex with you" most guys will not hesitate, and will hop right on. So its your job to let him know what your limits are. It doesn't even have to be communicated in a verbal way. Use bodylanguage.

I think the guy will not even attempt to ask you if you send out the right signals. He will respect you too much to even make that move, he is probably thinking about having sex with you the whole night, but if you send out the right signal, he will never ask you to, or push himself on you, out of fear of rejection.

Well said... lol

Hello all. Sex on the first daste is presumptive at best. Sex is great in a relationship, and do not get me wrong, it is awesome. However, there are many other things in a relationship to explore. If he is pushing that hard for sex on the first date, he is after not much more than a quick hook up. Fine if both of you agree that this is where it is going. If it is dating you are after, and a relationship, this is the wrong person in many cases.

Thank you sweety!

These post seem to pop up from time to time , and they make me wonder. Is something wrong with me ? Sex just isnt that high on my list of priorities . Maybe its because I just find that sex isnt all that hard to find . Finding someone special to have it with on the other hand ,NOW thats a challenge .What ever happened to putting your best foot forward and getting to know someone before you want to play monkey and the banana .

i only have sex on the last date

I know this will sound condescending but,
maybe you want to put that on your profile(s)?

As far as meeting off the net, you "could" just tell them that you have no intent of having sex with a man until you've dated for a couple months...

Your perfectly normal, its not that you don't want sex, you just want other more important things first. I feel the same way. I think thats somewhat of an indicator, if the guy isnt trying on the first date he wants more than just sex. All guys want it, its just the ones that don't try on the first date have different priorities.

The second theory is there is something wrong with both of us....

Have we truely reached a point in society , were people need to wear signs or post things on the internet , saying "No I will not blow you cause you took me out for a cheap italian dinner ". If that is the case I weep for us all

From what i can gather, a certain proportion of men on these sites are only looking for sexual encounters. They do not want to have to take you out a few times before they get any. But at the same time most will not tell you that this is all they are after. My advice would be to tell all men that they have no chance of getting any for the first few dates(even if its not necessarily true). That would weed out a lot of them.

Trust me, i wouldnt have sex with the man on the 1st 2nd 3rd 4th ect date, they would have had to took me out a hell of alot, to prove that they actully wanted more than sex...

Thats how u weed out the users, iv been on dates where they might get a good night kiss, i have known they wanted more but said by and gone home, or asked him to drop me off..

Dont lower yourself and be used..

That gose for you men to.. make sure they really care about you before you sleep with them..

Remmber men and women will say what you think you want to hear, just to get you where they want you!!

i know your feelings. i have came cross at least 2 that have come up with that subj. but i dont even give then the time of day after that comes up. i have my eyes on someone already. but b4 i did i had a couple bring that up like the first time talkin and that sent the RED FLAGS UP so i jus quit.

Thats hilarious!!!!