Or do most know right away? I've always heard that most guys know fairly quickly if they want to keep seeing a woman or not.

I've just been getting very mixed signals from a guy that I started seeing. We've seen each other a total of 4 times now. Not really dates, just hanging out and talking. We text every day (which I HATE, as I would rather talk on the phone), and he says that he is looking for a real, rest of his life, type of relationship.

We live in the same town, so it would be very easy to get together more often, if he wanted to. So, I am thinking that maybe he doesn't want to. But then why does he keep contacting me?

Could use some insight.....

Most guys are interested before they even meet a woman

When in doubt play harder to get...

You should be asking him these questions and not us! All your are going to get here is a speculation, and assumptions.

Am trying.

You should be able to tell by the touch and the feeling he gives you when you are around

I guess I just feel if I ask him this so early in the game, he's going to immediately think I am needy, and totally back off.

I am just looking for a little clue into how the male psyche works.

Can only say from my experience but for me it is not right away it takes long conversation to really know someone. I might be attracted and interested enough to pursue the relation but to know if she might be the one(or should i say maybe the one) it takes more than simple dates and text messages.

Long honest truthful conversation will do it for me (that is if she is truthful) maybe that is why I'm still single who knows.

IM JUST TO SLOW.THEY LOSE INTEREST FIRST..............

Ok how long had it been

He doesn't seem to be much into touching until I get ready to leave. Then his kisses are sooo hot. But I know that doesn't mean anything. I've met too many guys in the past who can fake what they feel for you just to get you into bed.

This is what I don't get. I feel that we need to spend more time together to get to know each other, but he seems ok with just texting.

We've only seen each other 4 times, but have been emailing or texting (did I mention I hate texting?) for about 3 weeks.

Well, if he goes any slower, I'm going to have to say "see ya".

When you're 21, a guy moves a bit faster than in his 40's.

Enjoying the travel, not so much the destination.
If you go too fast the trip is over sooner than expected.
If he is contacting you, he is interested.

He's keeping you at arms length...

Hmmm insight into guys psyche is that some know right away, and other don't...

You can feel anyway you want but by not asking the question to him, and seeking advice online your are only going to get biased opinion based off others experiences...

If you are having a difficulty in asking what i consider an easy question, then what are you going to do when more challenging situations occur? IMHO

plus if he backs off based on your question then you really need to think is this the type of person I want to be with?

R U sure that he's straight?

You seem to be fairly attractive so I am wondering if this dude is gay or maybe he is just such a gentleman that he wants you to make the first move (that's rare though).

Are you sure he isnt hiding something?

He's definitely not gay, and I know he's not married (his son and my daughter are good friends). And he seems like the type that isn't afraid to go after what he wants.

And now that I typed that, I just answered my own question. If he really wanted me, he would be putting more effort into things.

Damn! I really liked this guy too!