I went out with a man met online and had a great time on the 1st date. I've no reasons to believe that it didn't go well.. although I don't think I gave plenty of positive signals.

As we're saying goodbye, he asked me to call him sometimes and left it at that.

After just one date, I wasn't completely sure he's a great match but I'd definitely love to spend more time to get to him better. After a couple of days not hearing from him, I figured I'd email him to let him know I enjoyed the time. He emailed back with a nice but brief message which was not open ended and did not require a response. At the same time, I found that his profile's changed from dating/long term to friendship! We'd both only be on the site for a few months.

Well... I'm feeling a little bewildered and not sure why the sudden change. Perhaps it had nothing to do with me or the date. But because it happened right after the date, I couldn't help but to wonder why.

Your thoughts?

This is your first day here and your first post.

Sometimes men are just fickle hun. It probably had nothing to do with you, maybe he just had a great time and wants to keep his dating life open since he had so much fun. Don't take it personal unless it is obvious, not all of us are complete assholes :)

Have a great Day

My thoughts are forget it (and him) and keep on keepin on. Don't get hung up on any person after the first date and think it was you. So many others out there, just date like mad, and eventually something will come of it.

You're absolutely right! I think I'm hung up only 'cause I really liked the person (not yet romantically) and felt high level of connection intellectually. He'd definitely be someone I'd love to be friends with.

I'm certainlly still very inexperienced when it comes to the online dating thing. That's why I'm seeking your expert opinions so I can get some closure and move on! :)

Thanks!

Also, I am of the opinion that guys are more open and apt to call or contact you sooner, than the other way around. Girls generally give mild hints that they were interested, and sometimes like to play a little game right off the bat. A guy usually won't do that. If your not getting any response from him, just cut your losses, and consider it his loss.

What a great guy response!!!! Wow, you should write for more men out there! LOL

Lol... i'm just as bewildered as you

and again another very intelligent guy response! Wow, you two prove a lot of other men wrong. I am impressed!!

Seriously, don't waste your time if "he's just not that into you" it just means you had a kick butt first date and there will be many more to come. You never know....he could come around in a few days and then you get to decide!! Good luck!

what a pretty smile atlgirl!!

If your not getting any response from him, just cut your losses, and consider it his loss.


Thanks for the insights!

Well thank you sir!!! You are quite the adorable one yourself!

I agree with Adamal29 !!! It is refreshing to see a woman with a nice smile that has all her teeth and the color doesn't remind me of butter.... :)

Don't take it personally, don't look back and keep on truckin'.

There are a great many strange dating tales here, very sobering.

Stay in the forums and listen; it is MOST informing ...

I agree !!! Hell I ended up in the ER after a first date. She thought "IT" was a chew toy!! 13 stitches and a funny ass story out of it.

I love my life!

He's just not into you........

NEXT!

Yeah! that seems to be the consensus and ugly truth! :)


Out of curiosity, he's not into me... I'd expect him to be ultra active on finding his next date on the site. And yet he's switched from looking for dates to friends? He's back together w/ a former girlfriend!

Can I ask why u do NOT have a photo up?? Just curious

he's not into you and doesn't have the balls to tell ya