Ok so I'm a 34 yr old that was attracted to a 21 yr old man. It was where I worked and we had talked for a couple months and he wanted to come to my house and start hanging out. Of course I said yes because I was extremely attracted to him but by then I had fallen for his personality. I thought he was the perfect man he had the looks and personality. I never thought he would ever give me the time of day so I was so flattered. Well he had a girlfriend while we were talking and didn't tell me but he said that they had broken up and voluntarily give me his number. It was cool between us for a couple days then he started ignoring me what I didn't know is that he had gotten back with his girlfriend. Well we were pretty mean to each other for months and then one morning he texts me outta the blue wanting to see me of course I couldn't resist. He apologized for how he had treated me and said that it was def over with his girlfriend. Now keep in mind I'd tried with him over those months but nothing. Well I told him I didn't understand his attitude and didn't know what to think. I said you have been pretty mean to me and he said well I guess we'll just have to have make-up sex I thought only couples done that. Well i felt outta my zone and he said I thought this is what u wanted and I said I did months ago and you didn't. Anyway he pulled me up to him and started kissing me holding me so thight that any more I wouldn't been able to breath. He was touching me everywhere and I mean everywhere we didn't go all the way but almost. He made all the moves on me both times. Well I couldn't resist this I'd been talking to and meeting men online so I told him. He wanted to know what was up with that and in fact I had a date that night and I also told him that well after that his attitude changed completely and stopped talking to me again. He told me that the only reason what happened between did was because he was bored, happy, and in a good mood that morning and also said that it shouldn't have happened. I just want to know why he would act this way if he only wanted me for sex and wasn't interested in me otherwise. I asked him if we could be friends and he said no because I like too many others. Now he wants nothing to do with me and says he dont talk to me cause I'm infatuated and he also said at least what he had to say has meaning. Before we got together that morning he knew how I felt about him. I don't know any comments about this?

Because he's 21.

He is young. And it sounds like you were played.

I agree. Sounds like he knew you were hot for him and figured you'd put out easily. He's to immature for a relationship with a real woman. I'm sure you can do much better than him.

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Pleading the 5th on this one.

He is a child and sounds like he has severe mood swings Run woman in the opposite direction as fast as you can

I agree

Is it mood swings or just typical 21 yr old behavior?

Josie's on a vacation far away,

come on in and talk it over.

I know I ain't got much to say,

you know I like my girls a little bit older,


I just want to use your love tonight...


'I just want to use your love tonight'

the Outfield



Ah how music can sum things up nicely!

It also sounds like Stella Got her groove back!

This is what I would call 'one of those things.'

Don't take it seriously. You will hurt yourself if you do.

My last GF was 8 years older than me and I still do have serious feelings for her but we are just friends now. Granted it is not as extreme as your situation but what the heck. Like anything else in this world, that which does not kill you makes you stronger.

i would like to say to you, that in life when someone find that ou are willing to give them complete control, they do what ver they can to make you believe that you are making the right choice, bt when you lay back and think about, all you got was used, sorry that things did not workout for you'll, but it was never meant to be, just get your heart back on track, and look for your happiness, not a sex man....

Some guys just like the thrill of the hunt.. seeing if they can get you.. but they really dont want you.. get it? happens with girls too..

Lifes too short to date idiots!!! Dump the loser!!

CHING!!!!!

okay personally i've just seen he's 21 too many times...granted he's young and dumb anyone that age typically is...but sweetheart he's a jack ass thats just the personality there...he saw a sweet woman he could take advantage of and did...as many experiences as women have through out our lives we always have that ability to trust and be hurt again

21 and a man EQUALS immaturity and sex driven

perhaps you should "pick on someone your own age".. j/k especially since you have kids...attraction is one thing ..maturity is another ..and considering he lied to you the first go 'round why would you get involved with him for a second go 'round...i mean the signs were already there that he was a LIAR.... jmo

I can't tell you what to do on this but if I was you I would put that all behind you and go on with your life. There are many men that will treat you the way you deserve to be treated and love you for the woan that you are. Don't give up... Lifes to short to let that get you down. Trust me ive been there.

Just say bye~~!!!

If you dont want that kind of bs in your life.....then dont allow that kind of crap into it. Seems simple.....and it is!!