Hi we have alot in common or spellen....
Do not listen to them!!
Being married is wonderful if both people work at it and stay true to each other... its when they think the grass is greener... well it is not!

if the love bug even thinks about comin'my way i'll either step on it or spray it with a deadly dose of DDT... ..as for the saying "it is better to have loved and lost,then never to have loved at all"..BULL SHYT...

Adages like that stick around for so long because they are true. Nothing is ever universal, but hey.... what is another one? Oh yeah....

Life is a bitter pill to swallow!

Yep, been there - done that... It was horrible!

Later remarried her... stayed with her til her death due to Cancer in March, 2000.

Married again in December 2001, She had a severe asthma attack at work in December 2003, suffered brain damage from lack of oxygen. She is now in a nursing home 15 miles away...

Among the three incidents, I can't say which was the worst...

My pain was nothing compared to that of her children. They couldn't leave and since I wasn't the biological father I couldn't do anything about it.



Don't Panic!

what is another adage..if you cant dazzle them with brilliance,then baffle them with bullshyt"...

That what does not kill you makes you stronger!

What if it kills you and yer not smart enough to stay dead?





Don't Panic!

my marriage was painful; my divorce was quite healing...

That does not mean you have to try it twice

April 12th is my D day




Party time

i never got the closure of divorce..
we were only "common law" married.. and as we moved to another state it was not binding in this state.. (not sure yet what happens if i ever move back to montana. lol *shrug oh well*)
but thru the 7 years i was with him.. all 7 years of hell.. i gotta say that the seperation was the second best part of it..
the children are the first..
i loved him with all my heart. but he was abusive, and cruel.. he tourtured me in every way imaginable in the time we were together..

i have survived that time.. and i have survived the seperation.. and i have survived rasing my children alone..

my saying..
"youd be suprised what you can get used to... and even more suprised at how good it feels when you are free of it"


best of luck to those still healing..
there is always someone who is worse off. and someone better off..
but the pain is there for us all...

That's funny i got married that day

Time heals all wounds, or it wounds all heels.

1st Marriage...less then a year,Young and in the service...Left for Vietnam..Back home in 8 months..Found out she had cheated on me...
laughed and walked away never looking back.......

2nd Marriage...lived togeather for 4 years, Got married,she already had four girls by previous marriage and she gave me my two children.
was married 18 years....She cheated ,I cried ,and left.......

3rd Marriage...twelve years,I loved this woman imencly,she left, I
took her back....She left ,I took her back....Came home one afternoon
early...she was in bed with my best friend...I cried, and I left....

The pain of divorce is very hard on anyone ......I have felt it and so have you...BUT there is no pain greater then losing a child!!!!

1980 I lost my daughter to a drunk driver..Her mother lives in Illinois and I live in Arizona...I was contacted two days after the funeral...I went to her grave.....

1 year and three days later my only son fell assleep behind the wheel of his car, Hit a tree head on...killed instantly..notified the day after the funeral...I went to his grave.....



Long story short I lost my mind for a very long time......


maybe I shouldent have posted this...but you did ask about pain....


thanks for letting me vent.....boonedog....

Dooms say for you & divorce day for me

I think that I'll just stick to gratuitous sex.

Thanks for venting!!!!!! We all have lost at love and those we love to death.. I am sorry for all your losses and to all those who did not share!
I think you guys are truly amazing and really strong people.. You are an encouraGMENT TO OTHERs!
Life is hard and it is good to have all of you to share things with!
Be blessed!... ltl..

Good point and well said.

I feel the same way.

I've long since healed from the pain of our divorce. It was so very long ago. In fact, I have almost been divorced as long as I was married now. I don't identify as "divorced", but more "single" - and have for quite some time now.