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Topic: Are WE attracted to the wrong folks............
Peccy's photo
Tue 03/24/09 07:38 PM









It's hard to see what you NEED when your blinded by what you WANT!!!frustrated



Interesting...I think I am generally attracted by some mis-guided "need" - you know, that "someone to complete" me stuff.

I think when you just choose because you WANT someone, it can be healthier and you stay in control of your emotions more. Maybe it's must semantics.
flowerforyou



I don't know, seems like when people know you care, they start acting like fools, lol.


Well that goes for me, for sure! But it's more like the "I've got a crush" idiocy mode...I get tongue-tied and stupid like nobody's business. It's ridiculous...I'm old enough NOT to behave like I'm in Jr. High! Egads! :wink:


Omg, are we related, lol. I do the same thing. We have to start acting like we don't give a crap. For some reason, people respond to that better, lol.


act like a badazz..it works GREAT
On those who can't see through the act.


Don't go there mister grumble
I live there babe........laugh laugh laugh

galendgirl's photo
Tue 03/24/09 07:57 PM
ohwell


Well that goes for me, for sure! But it's more like the "I've got a crush" idiocy mode...I get tongue-tied and stupid like nobody's business. It's ridiculous...I'm old enough NOT to behave like I'm in Jr. High! Egads! :wink:


Omg, are we related, lol. I do the same thing. We have to start acting like we don't give a crap. For some reason, people respond to that better, lol.


act like a badazz..it works GREAT
On those who can't see through the act.


Don't go there mister grumble
I live there babe........laugh laugh laugh


Yeah, but you are moving to Georgia! Some of us are staying in the same zipcode! LOL!

Seakolony's photo
Wed 03/25/09 03:28 AM


You can change your "type of person you are attracted to", but in order to change that you have to take a look at you and change you first. It has to do with recognizing what in you makes you appealing or appeal to a certain type of person. What characteristics traits do your portary yourself that may turn off a particular type you wish to appeal to?? So on and so forth.....Good luck to you.


This is inline with the idea that 'the most consistent factor in all my dysfunctional relationships is ME'
If I want to have a different kind of relationship with a woman, then I have to be a different person than I was in the dysfunctional relationships.


It is absolutely true though, and a person must first take a look at themselves before being able to change the the pattern of which they find themselves.

ProteinGirl's photo
Wed 03/25/09 03:57 AM
This was a very difficult post to read.

Just look up the word co-dependency.

And personal boundaries.

I'm there, I have been so codependent, it made me sick.

As for the people we attract...

You attract what you WANT. Thoughts become actions.

Trust me on this.


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