to Brown Eyes, and anyone else of interest, I have covered many miles
and many relationships, I never got married untill I was fifty years
old, now I am fifty four and the divorce has been in progress for two
years, does that say much? a relationship can break in any age group,
but many times in my life I wished that I had married my highschool lady
friend, we did live together for a couple of years-----but then DO NOT
JUMP TOO FAST
as it has been stated earlier, when children and properties come into
play the game just gets tougher---and no one has said anything about the
children, how many of you folks have grown up in a split family? think
about more than yourself, you can have all the orgasms in life, and you
don't need to be married.
what you ask is one of the largest decisions in your life...make
your decision accordingly

hummm 19 seen to me to young, you haven't allow yourself to explore more
what is out their in the world, date a little more longer and if after
awhile you still feel the same way and you believe you have finally
found your true lifemate, then settle down get marry..........at least
that is my opinion.

TES ITS YOUNG!.. PLAY THE FIELD A LITTLE BIT MORE!!!!

First off i wouldn't say to marry this person unless you've lived with
them for awhile, sometimes people think that "there the one" but then
havent lived with each other, so i think you should get to know the
person in different enviroments. And plus i agree with the majority of
people maybe you should get out there more but then nobody knows if it
is right besides you listen to your inner self and it usually knows the
answer.

I played the feild while I was younger. I did alot of wild things. I
was ready to settle down at 18. My ex though did like a few other here
have stated. She grew up some and changed drastically. She went from a
church going girl to drinking, smoking pot, to an affair, and is now a
lesbian. So there ya have it 16 years later what a big turn around she
made. So it is not just your maturity level but his as well.

Yes please think of the kids. I suggest having your kids young over
older but wait through the honeymoon years(2-4yrs), before trying to
bring a baby into this world. All my kids seem to have adjusted to our
split except my son. He tells me often that he does not love me anymore
because I made mommy leave. I did not make her leave but I sure did not
try to stop her from packing her bags and moving in with her girl
friend.

The whole concept of living together first to see if you really can live
together is a myth. The statistics for divorce are just slightly higher
for couples who live together first.

Provide your source. Otherwise you are wrong. Living together is
absolutely a must. It only makes sense - think about it. If you don't
live with someone for a bit how will you find out the real person. No
matter what a person says, or how a person acts during dating you won't
see the real person until they relax in their own enviroment. If you
spend some time being in their enviroment, you will be in their
enviroment yourself. But if some studies can be actually provided I
will retract my statement. I'm not affraid to be wrong, but I won't be
called wrong based on some made up study.

i know what you are saying rider and i do think it is better to live
with someone first but the solution to that problem is finding someone
that is not fake in the first place, i'm still looking for them lol

The United Stated depatartment of vital statistics. My friend and I had
a physcholgy paper on the subject.

I can tell you about a friend that works for some government agency that
says the opposite. If you don't have the facts "really" just let it go.
My uncle works for the Department of Unmarried couples and he says 120%
of living together first couples stay together. ;)

So are you saying that couples who live together first never get
divorced or just 120 out of every 100.
In reality the divorce rate is about 54% for couples who do not live
together, and about 56% for those that do.
The deciding factor involved is a lot more people are less interested in
working on a relationship.

I was being silly. But I still think your statistics are bunk. It is
easy to claim you have friends in high places and throw numbers on the
screen. It is hard to prove these facts.

Let's look at this from the possitive side. If two people have found
someone they love and respect. If they really work to resolve issues in
daily life, does it really matter if they lived together beforehand or
not?
On a personan note, I am in favor of the instution of marriage, and
would help anyone preserve theirs if I could.