OK, as probably everybody knows, I have REAL ISSUES with people who post a profile pic of 2 or more people and never bother to tell you which one the profile actually belongs to.

But....

Sometimes they do tell you.

And this, more or less, in some convoluted way, leads to my hypothetical question.

Maybe now I should say what it is.

Well, let's say you saw a pic of two people, and one of them is rather attractive. So you click on the profile and you discover that the one you like is NOT the one the profile belongs to.

Now, is there a diplomatic way to contact the person and say, "You look like a porcupine with hydrocephaly, but your friend is absolutely stunning" -- ??

See, I'm not convinced that would go over too well.

Assume, for purposes of discussion, that this person does not post in the forums....

Just curious to see how people would address this sort of thing....!

...I'm in the middle.

I'm very blunt and to the point. However, my frontal lobe may not be functioning properly

But on topic. I don't think it would ever work out, could, maybe...but doubtful. Maybe you could ask who the other person might be? Or see if maybe you could talk to them...either or, won't work...probably ever. Best of luck Lex, you're going to need it on this one.

I'm not that narrow minded, or superficial.


And if it was imperative to know who the other person was, I would ask.


Without the arrogant porcupine comments.

i'd say I think we would make great friends. By the way is your friend on site too ?

Approach the hog as if you were sincerely interested, then slowly gather clues and information about the hot friend.

If you play your cards right, who knows...

That's all shades of wrong.

Well, look at it from this perspective, no woman (or man) wants to be 2nd best. It's like being at a bar with a bunch of girlfriends, a guy asks the first friend to dance, she says no. So, he goes around the table asking everyone else. I have never seen a situation where any of those "2nd choice" women will say yes. It may be shallow but it's an ego thing. I'd hazard a guess that even if you coached your request incredibly politely, there's no way in hell it would happen.

Good luck.

I have emailed another woman on the site about a guy in her photos
but I don't know that I would be so bold as to ask a guy on this site about a male friend in his...
I've been in your hypothetical situation
and I don't think there is a tasteful approach, online anyway
odd though that this type of thing seems common and even acceptable in "real life" interaction

Why would you even attempt to contact a big-headed porcupine...unless you wanna get pricked? Asking about their friend is just rude... Sowwwwwy! I'm just saying'....

Actually, the porcupine thing was just hyperbole to make the distinction seem more pronounced -- funny how people hone in on that stuff and completely miss the absurdist-humor aspect....well, lots of people have had humorectomies, I guess, it's not MY problem....!

The reality is that both of the women in the pic are attractive, but one is moreso (in my opinion, anyway) --

But the one I REALLY like is in a pic of THREE girls and she lives too close, unfortunately....

Bumpy ride Lex, downhill too.

Well, I figure it's all downhill from here on out, anyway. Might as well enjoy the view as it flies by.

That's what I do.

I told them that their friend wuz hot

Well, sure, YOU can pull that off! -- from me, it would just sound sarcastic and cynical, like everything else....

Lex...of course I understood that...silly beast! No need to pull out the Thesaurus or the Dictionary... I still say...in refernce to your OP...there is no need to be rude to anyone when asking about another person...tongue in cheek or "convoluted or hypothetical" the question...

Well the way I see it is like this: If they get offended because you ask about the friend in their picture instead of them, then maybe they'll think twice next time about posting such pictures as a main profile pic (perhaps their ONLY pic).

Serves 'em right, I say.