i've got snow to make love to, that's about it....no humans. too far away from civilization, and my wenis gets cold after a while. besides, the snow's been complaining about how i'm not around enough for it, and that i work too much, and i don't pay enough attention to it...........I JUST CAN'T WIN!!!!

so then what do you settle for?

Well cant I have the other stuff too??????????Whats wrong with wanting it all for a change...relationship too.

funny you can say what you want but not what you'll settle for....hmmmmmmm there is never gonna be what you want only what is out there

i'm just tryin to explain leave your options open don't look for perfection,look for ought

that is just the people that you reject their email

no..but does it exsist

I am very picky. I was single for almost 4 years. I'm glad I don't have disfunctional relationships in my past. I waited and sifted through a lot of dates before meeting my new honey. We are quite a match and SO FAR and have very little adjustments. I didn't settle; I just found someone who will put up with my crap and visa versa!

Everyone has a level of compromise; that is important. An example might be that your new boyfriend drops his dirty clothes on the floor -- and you pick up after him all the time -- but he will do the dishes and dust without being asked.

Compromise is not a synonym for settling though.

Settling seems to be a state of mind in starting a relationship with someone who is generally not your type at all -- "They aren't for me but ___________________ (I'm lonely, I'll learn to love them, My biogological clock is ticking, I'm not getting any younger, He or she is the last single person in this town, etc)".

can you agree with me that ought is what people should be?

So, do you think the things i want are unreasonable?

People should be 'ought'? 'Splain that and I will answer!

For me, and I can only answer for me, people should be picky!!

Why be miserable?

It's better to be alone than with the wrong person.

I feel that is selfish to be with someone when there is unhappiness. Even if the other person 'claims to be happy' they must sense discord (or they are ignoring the problem).

Being alone is not being lonely.

Blah, blah, blah ....

look up the definition of ought and then look up natural selection combine the two and there is everyones answer

So, your syntax was askew, and I thought you were meaning, "That is the way people ought to be". Plus, who would end their sentence with an auxiliary verb! Yeah, I'm a grammar freak!

Since you are using 'ought' as a noun, meaing a duty or moral obligation and pairing it with the theory of natural selection -- then you are speaking of irresponsible breeders!

IF this is to what you refer, then I agree! If two people plan to have children together then responsible thinking should be applied to continue strong traits.

I don't want to have kids so this theory never entered my mind. I just don't want to be saddled with a bad relationship.

ought is actually a verbal auxilliary and i really can't solve other peoples problems i gave it a shot and realized big words don't work so now i have decided to give up on the intellectual sh!t and just forget about it.....but everything does revolve around natural selection just ask Darwin..ooops he is dead

Geeeezzz....

I depends on how you use the word.

ought:
Auxiliary verb 1. (used to express duty or moral obligation): Every citizen ought to help.
2. (used to express justice, moral rightness, or the like): He ought to be punished. You ought to be ashamed.
3. (used to express propriety, appropriateness, etc.): You ought to be home early. We ought to bring her some flowers.
4. (used to express probability or natural consequence): That ought to be our train now.

Noun 5. duty or obligation.

And as an adverb -- aught

source: dictionary.com

Don't dummy down anything for anyone. Bring it -- as you put it earlier.

One of the best experiences of being a graduate student is analytical thinking, logic and dissecting human process.

I'm extremely single and even extremelier picky --

"Less" is anything I don't want, anything that I know doesn't and won't work for me within a relationship context.

In short, "less" is anything that dooms the relationship before it even starts.

That's often the case with a lot of single people- they refuse to "settle" for anyone and think they can find the exact perfect match for them, which is kind of delusional in a way. I mean... if YOU'VE foibles and skeletons in YOUR closet, what would make you so "perfect" in that you would only consider someone who also that way? It all reeks of hypocrisy to me...

As for myself, I'm not all that picky. Life is all about compromise and "settling" for something that might not be 100% of what we want. To expect to get to that point is just unrealistic.