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Topic: Why are women so confusing???
Unknow Joined Sat 12/15/07 Posts: 41170	Fri 02/27/09 05:09 PM
Stay away from girls. They have cooties.

Adamal29 Joined Sat 09/27/08 Posts: 485	Fri 02/27/09 07:40 PM
Here is my story...A little over a month ago I went out with a girl (new years eve) and had dinner, drinks, etc. I was out with her a few times before that, but this was more like our first date. Since new years we have spent almost every day together, done everything from dinners, movies, shopping, hanging out with parents, bars, sitting at home watching movies or tv together, etc, etc. She said in the beginning she was not in a hurry to be in a relationship which I could understand because she just got out of one with an asshole... I respected that, and never suggested that we get serious, she stayed at my house a few nights but nothing happened, and I never pursued more than a hug at the end of the night. about a week ago I couldnt hold in in anymore and told her how i felt, not using the "L" word, but hinting that it might be going there. She got mad at me for some reason and will not talk to me since? What did I do wrong? We went from being together everyday, doing everything together, having in-depth conversations that only bf/gf's would have, to not talking at all because I wanted to have a relationship? I am confused! any thoughts??? Man I wish I could have a few beers with you. (no I am not gay) This is scary how similar this story is to a couple of my own...But yea, do your best to forget about her, and maybe one day way down the road out of the blue, she may call. But by then, maybe you will find someone better.

hrt4lse Joined Sun 09/02/07 Posts: 219	Fri 02/27/09 08:43 PM
I had something similar happen with a guy I dated for about 4 months. We started out slow, and then things started to pick up. We saw quite a bit of each other & talked on the phone. However, once we got intimate then the rollercoaster started. He'd feel guilty & end up not sure what he should do, but then he'd want to be intimate again (the up) and then tell me how guilty he was feeling. He'd even make arrangements for me to be able to stay the night (another up), and then the next day that "look" would be in his eye and he wouldn't be sure how to proceed. The last time I was with him and had tried to initiate some kissing there was that "look" again & he once again said he wasn't sure what to do. I ended up leaving and telling him he needed to figure out what he wanted & if that included me then he could let me know. Haven't heard from him since and it's been about a year. I guess he wanted the intimacy, but he didn't want me.

poohbearface19 Joined Wed 04/23/08 Posts: 1847	Fri 02/27/09 08:50 PM
stay away form the girl not worth your time... i bumped into guys like that I just let it go.... don't beg not worth it.. ok

Want2B5ft Joined Sat 11/08/08 Posts: 1267	Fri 02/27/09 10:13 PM
Good to hear that you got an answer. Thanks shortie lol

EtherealEmbers Joined Sun 02/03/08 Posts: 6580	Fri 02/27/09 11:00 PM
I just had the almost the identical thing happen to me... 3 months of talking, 2 months of dating... him telling me he wanted to be friends first.. him telling me he hasn't had this many things in common with anyone before... that he hasn't felt this close to someone so fast... blah blah.. then one day he just stops talking. He's a wuss! A commitment phobic person. I'm guessing she's the same way and just flaking. I'd let her go. She obviously doesn't want to be there.

Adamal29 Joined Sat 09/27/08 Posts: 485	Fri 02/27/09 11:46 PM
I just had the almost the identical thing happen to me... 3 months of talking, 2 months of dating... him telling me he wanted to be friends first.. him telling me he hasn't had this many things in common with anyone before... that he hasn't felt this close to someone so fast... blah blah.. then one day he just stops talking. He's a wuss! A commitment phobic person. I'm guessing she's the same way and just flaking. I'd let her go. She obviously doesn't want to be there. wow, that happens with guys? thats news to me. I never heard of a guy doing the whole "I liked you too much routine"

EtherealEmbers Joined Sun 02/03/08 Posts: 6580	Fri 02/27/09 11:49 PM
I just had the almost the identical thing happen to me... 3 months of talking, 2 months of dating... him telling me he wanted to be friends first.. him telling me he hasn't had this many things in common with anyone before... that he hasn't felt this close to someone so fast... blah blah.. then one day he just stops talking. He's a wuss! A commitment phobic person. I'm guessing she's the same way and just flaking. I'd let her go. She obviously doesn't want to be there. wow, that happens with guys? thats news to me. I never heard of a guy doing the whole "I liked you too much routine" Of course it does. I always find the ones that say they don't want a commitment but then act like it, then when I confront them about it, they run and go commit to someone else. lol Yay me!

Adamal29 Joined Sat 09/27/08 Posts: 485	Fri 02/27/09 11:53 PM
I just had the almost the identical thing happen to me... 3 months of talking, 2 months of dating... him telling me he wanted to be friends first.. him telling me he hasn't had this many things in common with anyone before... that he hasn't felt this close to someone so fast... blah blah.. then one day he just stops talking. He's a wuss! A commitment phobic person. I'm guessing she's the same way and just flaking. I'd let her go. She obviously doesn't want to be there. wow, that happens with guys? thats news to me. I never heard of a guy doing the whole "I liked you too much routine" Of course it does. I always find the ones that say they don't want a commitment but then act like it, then when I confront them about it, they run and go commit to someone else. lol Yay me! hey, we should get together! This is exactly my problem.

EtherealEmbers Joined Sun 02/03/08 Posts: 6580	Fri 02/27/09 11:59 PM
hey yeah then we can run from each other and find our soul mates.

Riggs1 Joined Sat 12/27/08 Posts: 123	Sat 02/28/09 12:21 AM
She's sketchy. Man get out a there and forget her, even if she does come around again she's acting bipolar, she isn't ever going to be worth the time or worry. Unless your into that kind of up and down. she's playing with your head because your letting her. You didn't know before but now you do. And if the mom was telling you that her daughter is lucky and she hopes she comes around, that should be a big red flag.

agbbieannie Joined Thu 02/21/08 Posts: 942	Sat 02/28/09 01:38 AM
Your looking for sex...............NOT all women follow the 3 date rule.........my gf said wait 90 days then full benefits LOL...........Like a company. I dont follow the 3 date rule. And yes I date. LOL It happens................ maybe she wants more then SEX.

nogames39 Joined Sat 12/27/08 Posts: 2752	Sat 02/28/09 03:09 AM
We will try to be friends for now, she has other issues in her life that need to be addressed before she wants to date anyone. It will be interesting how this all plays out, but for now I wold rather it be that way than not talk to her at all What did I say earlier? Friends list. It is not hopeless. But, be aware, that it way easier to lose respect from a woman (be thrown on a ball-less list), than to won her respect ever again after that. You can do it. If you put your mind to it. Mind. Not just conventional "wisdom". Good luck.