i met a woman on line, we meet, sparks fly and we see each other 3 times in 3 weeks "after a long chat to get to know each other" she lives 72 miles away. v-day weekend was great. we work well together. she owns a store in the village were she lives, the store is bearly hanging on. this past monday, she calls and says she needs to take a break from me that she can't consentrate on her store and chat with me everyday. ok she claims she likes me very much and will call when things with the shop get better. should i wait or just move on?
de-wonderer

sounds pretty simple, either give her the time she's requesting to get her store/business in order, or move on.

Only you know what's best for you.

Good luck

Move on. Sounds like she either changed her mind or is playing you.

I'd say give her the break she's asking for and be patient.

Sounds like a genuine concern. I would wait if I thought there was a chance that this would work. When a person is faced with the choice of a new relation or their livelyhood I'd expect them to chose their stability first.

i agree with loo and want to add is she going to do this everytime her store has problems?...just sayin

Come on guys. With the way the economy is going, maybe she really is having problems.

It's hard to focus on getting into a relationship when your business is suffering.

Don't get played. Be seeing you.

Exactly... I doubt the problem with her store arose within the past three weeks. Her thought processes towards your "relationship" have changed since her situation has not.


I say get out while the friendship is still new.

In a village... Sounds small....word should get around if she is or isnt

Then why start in the first place? She had second thoughts. Maybe she will want to pick up again in 6 weeks or 6 months or the third Tuesday of next week. Why should he wait around for that crap?

Be cautious. It sounds suspicious. Ask her if you can help in anyway and see what her answer is....??? That might shed some insight. Sorry to sound suspicious but how do you go from hot to cold in the span of a second? Sounds suspicious.

Even if the problems arose earlier, she is just getting into a new relationship with the guy. That's added stress along with what she is already going through.

I just think he should wait it out for a little bit and see what happens. What's he going to lose by doing that? Time?

Time is the most precious commodity we have. It's the one thing we can never get back.

I'd give her the break she wants but keep your options open

Go kick her ass

Sounds like she's really stressed out and her store may go under, give her the time to try to get her stuff together and to focus on not losing her store and if it was meant to be or if she wants it to be she will come back around, don't sit by the phone but don't shut her out either... good luck...

Maybe you're right. I guess I'm looking at it from a different point of view.

Give her what she is asking, what can it hurt? If she is playing games, it will surface, if she isn't then she will contact you....either way if you don't do what she ask you will lost her all together...