Well, I am just wondering what everyone on here thinks about this situation.....

I have a very close friend that is like a little brother to me. He has been in a relationship for about 6-8 months. She is the NICEST, most awesome girl and they are perfect for each other. He told me last night that he cheated on her two weeks ago with a co-worker. My first reaction was "DUMBA**, why would you mess up something SO good!!"......plus, i LOATH AND DESTEST CHEATERS!! However, he is a really close friend of mine.....he told her about it and she is thinking it over whether she wants to stay with him

I want to know what you all think about your really close friends cheating on their partners....Do you stay there for them?? Do you yell at them?? How would YOU react????

I loathe cheaters,I have been cheated on before.................good luck.

Ditto!!

That's a tough call. I was sort of in the same situation as my brother cheated on his wife. I love my brother dearly, but I couldn't and wouldn't defend his actions. I just let him know how I felt about it and let him deal with it. That's about all you can do.

Here is how I see it. I choose to surround myself with people who are supportive, people I respect and admire, and fellow human beings.

We all make mistakes. Do you think your friend truly "gets it"... as in understand the magnitude of what he has done? Not only did he disappoint her, his co-worker, and himself, but he also disappointed you. Sit his butt down and tell him how hurt you are.

I'd beat the crap outta my friend....but stay his/her friend.

You know thats a difficult situation because , i woulda recomended he do exactly what he did which is tell he about it . then i would sit down and be his friend and talk to him about it . i wouldnt yell at him or tell him how stupid he is because chances are he knows and is already beating himself up . he knows he did wrong at that point you just need to be his friend and support him .

i did sit down with him and talked to him about it.....he is VERY remorseful and wishes that he could fix it any way possible....i told him outright that i was very disappointed in him and that if i were her i wouldn't even talk to him.....however, i was there to support him and make sure that he didn't beat himself up TOO much over this

it just sucks so much since i cannot stand someone that lies and cheats.....

thanks for the input you guys!!!

Double the double ditto!!!!!!!

I have to go with the "bros before hos" line. I worked with a lot of women and have known about their men who cheated. I told one woman and she got mad at me, saying that he denied it and I was just a "hater"; I worked with one woman, whose husband was so bad about screwing around that I assumed she must know and it really wasn't my place to destory her life.

I think we all do make mistakes. Good reason to stay single.

tell him since "since you think its okay to cheat on your girl i guess you dont mind if i sleep with her" ticks them off but gets directly to the point

Give him your opinion, upfront.
Truth is truth, he needs to know that.

We all have a responsibility to help our friends, however we can.

If they were as great together as you say they are, and he actually loved her, he wouldn't have done it in the first place. When someone is actually in love, they wouldn't even consider cheating

Well the right answer is to still be his friend. It is when you love someone when they mess up or when their flaws come out that you show real love. Not just when they are doing great or their good side is showing.

So I think you should still be his friend. What you have to do is to let him know that it was wrong and that you don't agree with it. I mean you could stop talking to him for a while or something like that. But I think you need to stand by your friend, as he will most likely be going through a lot of guilt and pain from the breakup.

I have been there and done that and it was definately wrong, but I gained a lot of invaluable lessons that I would have never learned had I not cheated. I think the only time something really sticks with you is when it is the most painful.

Damn it darlin, why couldnt I be 20 years younger....You are the supreme catch, my special friend...How are you?

Not only discuss with him that it was wrong but ask him why he did it. If there is an underlying reason, it will happen again. Maybe you can help him work through the cause so he can grow from the experience. I always try to help that way, it doesn't always work but better to get to the root of the problem if you can. Good luck.

I am doing AMAZING right now, and everything couldn't be better!! you are young at heart cuppy and that is ALL that matters

how are you doing??