are people so eager to shut the door on long distance relationships without getting to know the other person through chat or such?

Because most of them are scammers.

Im all for long distance relationships!!! I get to look fabulous all of the time!!!

I need someone to be with me physically, that's why I don't do long distance relationships.

i think that many people find it improbable that they'll meet someone in person if they're a large distance away. so, why waste time and effort.

I agree, I need more than a pen - pal.

Doesn't matter to me. It's just too difficult for me to travel for more than about 6 or 7 hours due to health issues. By car I could travel for longer because it's not as stressful as air travel.

it's not a waste of time you have to give every opportunity a chance to succeed. so why not a long distance relationship. UNLESS you have no intentions ever of a possible move? hmmmmm

Part of building a relationship is being together and long distances aren't exactly conducive to being together

I agree with you completely! But many people do not! It's hard if you find the right person, but he lives far away and does not want to try to work out a long distance relationship!

yes i agree some physical contact is important, but not required...

Generally i say don't expect "everything" out of a long distance relationship... but then don't deny yourself the possibility of a happy future either. even if a long distance relationship does not work out in the end... you could very well end up with an everlasting deep friendship. :) pen pals anyone? lol

or would it beeeee... keyboard pals? e-mail pals?

OOOOH!!

E-pals!! :D

Most of us have been around the block once or twice. Having gone down the long distance relationship road we know there are a ton of pot-holes along the way.

Relationships are hard enough without adding another factor to them. If you can make it work good for you, most of us don't really see it as a "workable" option.

I agree! I get so tired of the pussies ( ) that say they need the physical relationship all the time. MY gawd we are not teenagers! Grown ups should be able to develop the mental strength capable of having a LDR. Can't people keep their pants on enough for a special person that is not near them? Must they always have instant gratification? Oye!

If after a short time, like a year, then have a discussion about relocating.

This subject seriously peeves me. I loathe people that won't get off their arse and try for something in life. Things are not handed to us on silver platters. We have to GO GET WHAT WE WANT and show some effort!!!

Melody

Lots of people think that LDR are way to hard, I happen to be one of those people. I want someone that I am close to so I can spend time with them without traveling a lot of miles. I don't mind making friends on here but if they live far away, I usually know its going no where.
You can't fall in love with a monitor or just an email. I prefer to spend time with a person and get to know someone. But IF a LDR is your thing...Good Luck

The phone does not keep me warm at night

Sorry...LDR's for me are a waste of time...I can't relocate for another 6 yrs and I ain't keeping my pants on for that long...hell no...and I have yet to meet a woman online that would be willing to relocate...they always expect the men to move...but to each there own

I know lots of people in long distance relationships (myself included)

maybe you're just talking to the wrong people

I love the way you put it and explained it! Totally agree with you

so if your in a LDR and you have kids together...what about that,oh nevermind keep your pants up and skirts down

Well, that just sucks and isn't always true. Besides, it shouldn't be a gender issue. The person most mobile, possibly the one making less money, or that can reinvent themselves in a new career or a transfer should be the one to move.

I'm not saying it's easy, but who the heck doesn't want a challenge and an adventure in life?

Melody