so I'm back..after 3 weeks.
eh the guy wouldn't call me his girlfriend. it was like he was ashamed of me or something. We went way to fast and not even a week ago he told me he loved me..but now we won't be talking anymore...
ended last night. i screwed up pretty bad. begged for forgiveness..no i didn't cheat. i guess asking a girl he didn't mention at all if they were just friends made him really mad. he was really rude to me then. saying "ill consider calling you again"...couldn't forgive me. i dont know why guys complain about girls cheating on them and when they find one who won't they kick them to the curb.
cried my eyes out, had chills, threw up..i felt like i had the flu. but for me it's cry one day and move on the next.
I'm back and he's only made me stronger than ever.

Wow that guy sounded really egotistical,like he was doing you a favor all the way.

i know. i know i screwed up pretty bad..but seriously. he wanted to be friends..screw that. how can i be friends with someone who won't forgive me?he knew i was really upset. im not proud of what i did and i learned my lesson.
it just sucks.

that sucks....but welcome back

Dont be sorry about wanting to know where you guys stood as friends or lovers, that just leads to you assuming your together until you see him with another girl and then your really heart broken. You did the right thing. ;)

yeah...i didn't want to be played like a fool!

I was just dealing with a man about 8 years younger and he called himself a Christian and was all sorts of judgemental about me being on the internet to find a date, when he was ALSO on the internet to find a date, and he was just so freaking flaky and would talk sweet and wonderful to me then start calling me nasty names.... I'm just so glad I shut that tap off and never met the creep.
We just NEVER know the mentality of others. Never know what's going on in their minds and hearts.
All I could do was pray for him to be healed!!!

Everybody plays the fool...

sometimes....


there's no exception to the rule...


just like the song.


Hopefully the experience made you stronger and a little wiser about dealing with people.

You just got unlucky and came across a total CHOAD!


You will be stupid if he tries to play that "baby I have been thinking and I made a mistake" routine and you let him back into your life.

That's a bit more information that I would have disclosed, but....

Trust me. You'll be fine and one day...if not already...you'll be thankful this guy is out of your life.

You have plenty of time to make your share of mistakes. Odds are, as defensive as he was, he was lying and your intuition wasn't wrong. If there was nothing going on, he would have been much more casual about it, unless of course, you were pushing the issue.

MEH. In my proverbial words:


(((((((((((((((( NEXT )))))))))))))))))






Uhhh sure .. you can quote me

Just from what you included in your OP, sounds to me like you're much better off without someone like that. There ARE decent people out there, or that's what Martin Van Buren's ghost keeps telling me, anyway....

Umm, how long were you together before the "L" word was dropped? Eh, maybe you threw yourself out there too fast. You gotta let a dude chase you at least a little bit. THEN you can sink your meathooks into him and he won't even know what happened.

But um, anyway. How YOU doin'?

we were together for 3 weeks...
and then i think sometime last week he told me he loved me...
we did move really fast. and now i know slow and steady wins the race.
im okay. how are you?

im not. it's hard. i miss him. but i have to be strong cause i know i deserve better!

you did nothing wrong

Lol, 2 weeks in and he's "in love" eh? I'll go out on a limb and assume he was trying to stay in your panties bugglebear. Amirite? I am also willing to bet you were really clingy too. How many times did you tell him you loved him before he replied in turn?

My reason for thinking this is that you were butthurt over him not calling you his girlfriend. And then calling a THIRD person that's HIS friend to check up on some facts? Well, as a dude that would shift me into douchebag mode myself.

Look, I don't know everything. I can only go by what you said. Also, I may seem like an ass, but I'm not going to sugar coat things either like a lot of people tend to do.

Going forward, remember that "love" is a powerful f*cking word. It should NEVER be used lightly. If it is mentioned WAY early in the relationship, then that is a red flag.

Good luck.

Oh, are you on the rebound?

He said he didn't tell me he loved me because he was afraid I wouldn't say it back...but after that we didn't really say it much to each other.
Well i asked him about any girls he talked to and he didn't mention her..but i guess she had his phone number cause she texted him and told him I asked if they were just friends...
yeah high school crap.
I was really hurt that he didn't call me his girlfriend. if he really loved me then there would be no problem with that. the relationship was probably going to end anyway because of that. i know i deserve better than to be just called a "friend". ugh.
yeah i'd be pissed too if he asked one of my friends if we were dating..but still i said i was sorry a million times. and he couldn't let that pass?he's worse then me. ha.

Eh, buck up honey and keep cruising.

Im so glad Im not 19 anymore!!!