what things have you done to stop being taken for granted...............advise please

It's simple- don't allow yourself to be taken for granted.

When someone comes up to you for a "favor", make sure that there's some incentive for you (food, money, stuff, etc.) so that you're not there holding the proverbial bag.

One of the biggest pitfalls in the business I work in is that so many people take everything (including workers) for granted. They just assume that we'll do whatever they want and not say a thing about it. And I don't- until I turn in my invoice for my hours worked, that is. Then the noise level goes up significantly.

Caring.

I figured out that I couldn't help people that didn't want to help themselves.

That and I figured out how to be happy being alone. When your happy being alone then you don't let people take advantage of you because you don't want to be lonely.

but thats what I did, and not everything that works for me will work for anyone else.

Hmm... I always thought it was taken for granite! But I dunno! Anyway, prove to people you can do more and are worth more then what they see you as! I know it sounds pretty broad when I say that but the reason people usually take you for granted is because they aren't aware of great things you're capable of. Don't be afraid to brag about the things you're GOOD in, but don't overdo it and become an arrogant snob. Apply yourself to things you know you excel it and make it known that you're someone worth noticing. :) I'm not sure if this helped you AT ALL BUT I did try my best...

TREAT THEM THE SAME WAY THEY TREAT U OR JUST COMPLETE ACT LIKE IF U DONT CARE ANY MORE THATS WHAT I DID AND IT HELPED NOW GUESS WHOS IN CHARGE..LOL..

Ask them if they have an appointment when they show up.

I will discuss the issue at hand with my partner and let them know that's strike 1

For the past three days I have sat and thought of this.......I dont want to play mind games but it seems I have done all the communication that I can out of the person...........I care about them but sometimes like you said you need to treat them like they treat you and only when you do that will they see how it feels............its so sad that people dont have that instinct of having integrity in the first place but I think some people are better knowing when it is done to them...................

Started using my brain more than other parts of me, heart, sex drive, etc.... Look for someone who works and keeps their own place (they can live with room mates and it still counts as being on their own, just not living with mom and dad)and a car. Oh and watch out for those momma boys, they are SPOILED TERRIBLY and expect too much from those they choose to be in a relationship with.

There is alot more but I do not want to write a book. Good luck.

ITS TRUE MIND GAMES ARE NO FUN BUT SOMETIMES U JUST HAVE TO PLAY THE WAY THEY DO AND MAKE THEM HAVE A TASTES OF THIER OWN MEDICINE IT HURTS BUT U HAVE TO BE TOUGH DONT LET THEM C UR WEAK SIDE ANY MORE AND NEVER THINK UR BEING TO CRUEL BECAUSE THEY WILL TRY AND MAKE U FEEL GUILTY EVEN THO UR NOT.. I WAS IN UR SHOES SO I KNO HOW IT FEELS BUT NOW THE PAPERS FLIPPED AND I HAVE HIM JUST LIKE HE HAD ME... BUT U HAVE TO B STRONG AND THEY WILL TEST U TO C HOW FAR THEY CAN STILL GET AWAY WITH

HYNA your right about this..........I thought that we had really established a commitment and then all I see is dissapointment and I cant take it anymore...........I have started the process and I really dont want to do it but it has to be done because im done with words and they arent effective like I thought............I am mos def going to go ahead because me being mad and furious is only in my side he doesnt see it that way and now I see that................but I wish that I didnt have to do it this way.........

Overdose them on YOU. Get in their face, in their lap, in their shower, in their food, in their sleep, and in their every breath. Either they will respond by eating you alive or by flailing around in fear and blurting out that they need space. <---meaning that they stopped taking you for granted.

Can you handle it if they consume everything that you can pour out?

I have done that and it just makes me look irrational.........I think now I just have to sit back and not respond and let the chips lay where they may...........I can only control myself and I cant change the views of others but I think what I can do is inflict the same pain that is peircing me............ty

U NEED TO GO ON WITH UR PLAN AND DO IT BUT U NEED TO STICK WITH IT EVERY THING HES DONE TO U DO IT TO HIM IF HES IGNORED UR CALLS IGNORE HIS EVEN THO UR DYING TO TALK TO HIM AND IF U DO ANSWER HIS CALLS SHOW NO EMOTION DONT SAY I LOVE U ANY MORE DONT SWEET TALK DONT BABY HIM ANY MORE AND IF HE TRIES TO BABY U ACT LIKE IF IT BOTHERS U... U NEED TO MAKE IT SEEM LIKE U DONT CARE ABOUT HIM BECAUSE THATS WHAT THEY WANT FOR U TO B AFTER THEM AND BEGGING DONT DO IT ANY MORE

Oh, sweets, that just isn't the you that you want to be.
And it isn't the memory of this that you want to keep for the future...even a memory of how it ends.
Maybe I am wrong.
"Taken for granted" sounds uncomfortably like being scorned, or demeaned...
I am sure that the glib Romeos out there would say that they were so sure of mutual unending love that this was a sign of purest trust that each of you would take the other for granted...but I am not glib.
I am only saying that the sweetness of finding each other is being replaced with unfulfilling feelings, and the pain of that feels like the mirror of your soul cracking up each day.
I am too inexperienced to know what to say now.

If you have a giving personality it is easy to feel taken for granted.

Looking within yourself and figureing out why you seem to go further than you feel comfortable with. I don't know if any of these reasons apply or maybe there a completely different ones.

( ) You feel you have to make up for being selfish in another part of your relationship?
( ) Do you want to be seen as "nice".
( ) Have you been allowed to say "No" in your history?
( ) Have you always pushed yourself beyond your boundries to be successful?
( ) Do you see being submissive as feminine?
( ) Are you too intelligent to acknowledge someone being and ass?
( ) Are you hopeing that what you give out will come back to you?
( ) Are you trying to be more giving because someone was so selfish in your life that you don't want to be like them?
( ) Do you feel so grateful/guilty for having what you do that you feel you have to give back?
( ) Do you just go ahead and do it because it seems petty to complain?
( ) Do you just do it because it is quicker or it gets done your way?
( ) Do you tolerate a guy because he isn't as bad as some you have seen?
( ) Do you tolerate someone because your friends/family will blame you for picking a looser?
( )Do you think this is as good as it gets?
( ) Do you stay with the devil you know because you are afraid of the devil you haven't met?
( ) Do you feel superior that you give more than your share?
( ) Do you take it will make your partner look unmanly to help you?
( )Do you think he should know how to help? Read your mind?
( ) Do you not want to fight because you know he won't fight fair?

Once you figure out why you let someone take advantage of you it probably makes sense to set a goal to say "NO" to your top three worst peeves? Habits are hard to break but practice makes perfect.

Wouldn't hurt to work on prevention either. If you don't start being a doormat you don't have to stop. If the only way some guy is going to stick around is because he can take advantage of you in the first place it is easier to loose him early.

If you are hopeing to remediate someone it is possible but not anything to bet big money on.

I found when someone doesn't pick up their stuff either putting it away in totally the wrong place is helpful. Throwing things away is effective. I had a room-mates that left underwear on the floor. I warned them and then when it got down to about two pair of underwear they started making it into the hamper.

When a guy forgets to say "Thank You" don't do whatever you did and tell them well I figure it didn't mean enough to you to say thank you so I didn't see it was necessary.

When someone doesn't remember you for a holiday skip them the next holiday or year and remember someone that does.

One thing I know does NOT work is nagging, treating them like a kid, or being the manners police.

There is a saying that "What you ignore you endorse". In some cases that is true if you ignore the behavior but not if you totally ignore the person.

Sorry someone is making you feel bad. (HUGS)

a wise man once told me
"You deserve what you tolerate."

I never could understand why anybody would want to be taken for coarse rock.

LOL

I got to the point where I just eliminate those people from my life.