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Topic: A failed relationship?
wraithme66's photo
Sun 01/18/09 06:02 PM





yep i think back and regret things and still want to see my x happy even though i know it will never be with me. I have yet to meet someone that has said that to me. They all tell me what a jerk he was and it was all his fault. then i say i was wrong as much as she was and they act like i am crazy. A couple of these women obviously had some serious issues and i'm thinking boy i had it pretty good. Oh well just thinking aloud. Ohh.. here is the kicker, one told me since i dont hate my x i must still have feelings for her and i have a problem. this is crap if you ask me!



Sounds like you have had a pretty fair share of severely insecure women in your life. Next time around... Try to find one that is strong-headed, and confident.



nope not true at all! nor have i had many women its been since 1989 since i was with anyone else i dont get what your talking about? If your talking about now i havent got passed the screening stage and i cant help to introduce myself so i dont understand what your saying?



Okay... In that case... It sounds like you're having confidence/trust issues yourself? The scariest thing is trying to trust again. That's just one reason I can think of why you've been single for 20 years now. For all I know.. Maybe you just like being single?
okay like fireman ted said "you got to pay attention!" i was in a realtionship for 20 years and not single, and since i started looking i have found a lot of bitterness and i wanted to point it out! I have no trust issues what so ever i have issues trust me but thats not one of them! Confidence isnt a problem if anything i have to tell myself to not be cocky and try to work at that. My opinion is you can not have a relationship fail unless its your fault to some degree, and dating i dont consider a realtionship. To be honest i think you need a little self reflection yourself!


Ouch! I wasn't trying to criticize you... I was merely trying to help...

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Sun 01/18/09 06:16 PM






yep i think back and regret things and still want to see my x happy even though i know it will never be with me. I have yet to meet someone that has said that to me. They all tell me what a jerk he was and it was all his fault. then i say i was wrong as much as she was and they act like i am crazy. A couple of these women obviously had some serious issues and i'm thinking boy i had it pretty good. Oh well just thinking aloud. Ohh.. here is the kicker, one told me since i dont hate my x i must still have feelings for her and i have a problem. this is crap if you ask me!



Sounds like you have had a pretty fair share of severely insecure women in your life. Next time around... Try to find one that is strong-headed, and confident.



nope not true at all! nor have i had many women its been since 1989 since i was with anyone else i dont get what your talking about? If your talking about now i havent got passed the screening stage and i cant help to introduce myself so i dont understand what your saying?



Okay... In that case... It sounds like you're having confidence/trust issues yourself? The scariest thing is trying to trust again. That's just one reason I can think of why you've been single for 20 years now. For all I know.. Maybe you just like being single?
okay like fireman ted said "you got to pay attention!" i was in a realtionship for 20 years and not single, and since i started looking i have found a lot of bitterness and i wanted to point it out! I have no trust issues what so ever i have issues trust me but thats not one of them! Confidence isnt a problem if anything i have to tell myself to not be cocky and try to work at that. My opinion is you can not have a relationship fail unless its your fault to some degree, and dating i dont consider a realtionship. To be honest i think you need a little self reflection yourself!


Ouch! I wasn't trying to criticize you... I was merely trying to help...


its cool im not trippin it was a little critical to say what you said thats all and i dont think you understood me. maybe i did not explain myself well enough. peace brother!

sensualsweet's photo
Sun 01/18/09 06:19 PM
IMO, many relationships fail because (to coin a well-known movie phrase)

"What we have here is a failure...

to communicate"




Can you guess which movie??

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Sun 01/18/09 06:21 PM
Ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww yuck. 'nother disguised "nice guy" thread. Read the disclaimer!!! Or post one!

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Sun 01/18/09 06:27 PM

Ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww yuck. 'nother disguised "nice guy" thread. Read the disclaimer!!! Or post one!


well its not an act for some of us okay? I am just trying to keep it real its not my fault you feel bitter dont dump that in my lap!

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Sun 01/18/09 06:47 PM


Ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww yuck. 'nother disguised "nice guy" thread. Read the disclaimer!!! Or post one!


well its not an act for some of us okay? I am just trying to keep it real its not my fault you feel bitter dont dump that in my lap!


it was meant to be jovial and jesting no actual offense intended

though I must say you might actually be a "nice guy" the thing is your actions(take that word choice with a grain of salt as it is understood only through what was written in these forums) dictated this thought and not your self proclamation as such...

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Sun 01/18/09 06:49 PM


Ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww yuck. 'nother disguised "nice guy" thread. Read the disclaimer!!! Or post one!


well its not an act for some of us okay? I am just trying to keep it real its not my fault you feel bitter dont dump that in my lap!


Cool response! That's what I look for - not the initial posting.

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Sun 01/18/09 06:49 PM



Ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww yuck. 'nother disguised "nice guy" thread. Read the disclaimer!!! Or post one!


well its not an act for some of us okay? I am just trying to keep it real its not my fault you feel bitter dont dump that in my lap!


it was meant to be jovial and jesting no actual offense intended

though I must say you might actually be a "nice guy" the thing is your actions(take that word choice with a grain of salt as it is understood only through what was written in these forums) dictated this thought and not your self proclamation as such...


Yeah, man, what she said . . . I think.

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Sun 01/18/09 06:51 PM
It's always both parties making it succeed of fail...even if you THINK you are doing it all right, you are probably missing something.

Then again...if you are doing it all right and the other isn't doing anything, doing it all is STILL the wrong choice!

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