im sure this topic has been posted in some way before... but things change over time. so i'm asking your opinions on it NOW.

say you've met somebody online that you're interested in... how soon would you consider meeting up with them?

i've had some friends say they would wait a long time, that way you could make sure you really knew and trusted each other... but then i've had others say they would meet up pretty early, that way you know whether or not you're wasting time on somebody you don't "click" with.


your thoughts?

ASAP....you can speak to someone on here forever, but until you actually spend time with them...you really don't know them at all

but you also dont trust the person early on... what if they slip something in your drink just to get a piece of ass?

Straight away...unless you are on web cam or Skype...see who is really hooking up with you first

Keep your hand over your glass or thumb in the bottle...it works for me

I would say with in a couple of weeks of first talking to them. As long as you feel ready in doing so. And keep it safe, daytime, public place, ect.

i talked to my guy on the phone and messenger for about a week before we actually met.
and of course email

I exchange emails,talk on the phone, webcam and then meet

Yeppers spoke to a Guy on here for 18 Months...still wont meet up with me...what does that say to you

i understand where you are all coming from... im just concerned what if the guy/girl isn't trust-worthy... they can slip something in your drink, rape you, etc. so people say meet in a public place with friends, etc. but that doesn't stop them from slipping something in your drink.

i have trust issues lol

The webcam seems to be the answer... talk on that first then meet

I've met someone in as little as two weeks, and as long as a year.

The one I met in two weeks turned out to be an arsonist; but everybody else I met, regardless of length of time before meeting, turned out to be a bad situation.

My gut instinct is that it's better never to rush into anything, and I'd LIKE to believe (and this may just be wishful thinking) that if I ever decided to meet someone from a dating site again, I would allow PLENTY of time, and have a clear understanding of who that person really is, before taking that step.

But the reality is that my dating-site-meeting experiences have been SO bad that it's unlikely I would even consider doing it again.

Keep an eye on your drink....simple as that....and a great idea...have friends go to the meeting with you and have them sit across the room...that way you are not alone and they won't know it

I understand what you mean here. As long as you have an eye on your drink, you are good. Carry it with you...drink the whole thing...just be responsible for your drink. And don't allow the guy to get it if you are not comfortable with him handling your drink.

I like to take my time & get to know someone as much as possible ,chatting online, email & then phone. It's gives you a better idea of who they are & if you even want to meet them & when you do meet it's not so nerve racking & you will have plenty to talk about, works for me anyway.

Simply be very careful. Friends at first meeting is a safe thing or a friend calling you periodically throughout your date and knowing where you are going to be. I have dated women who did this initially and it made perfect sense to me. You really have no clue about the person, about who they really are.

A dear lady friend of mine chatted with a guy she met online for over a month and had many phone calls. They really hit it off. Then they met and spent a wonderful day together at a tourist town in Florida. Everything seemed great. That evening they got a hotel and the moment the door closed he became a monster and beat her and raped her. According to her nothing prior to that would have indicated such a thing was possible. Nothing in a month of chatting and phone calls and an entire day together. Sadly she did not report it to the police so he is out there still doing this no doubt.

If friends knew where she was and were supposed to call her periodically and act if no answer then maybe it would not have happened ... the guy would be aware she had a safe plan and maybe left her alone that night.

Be safe!

We have all seen folks on here spent months getting close "emotinallly" and "intellectually" in forums, e-mail and phone, only to meet and be disappionted.
We are all human and drawn to each other by attraction. We know this.
It does not make us superficial,it makes us...

People.......

I say meet early, before you can get too attatched and set yourselves up for disappointment.

Do it respectfully and honestly.

JMO