i still ponder bowling...and still star gazin

I will always be down.

Did you take offense to what someone here wrote? Is that what the rant was for?

I keep my last halloween picture there and you'd be surprised how many people just e-mail me to get advice on jobs or school, etc. WTF!?! Should I start lying about my profession? I try to be a nice guy, but seriously do you know how many women I have dated only to find the conversations start turning into their therapy sessions? WTF? I will go in to work if I want that! I went on a dinner date and no lie, the woman pulls out her college homework and asks me to help her with it right there in the restaurant. first date too! I am pretty sure that there is something about me that attracts that sort of stuff, so I hope you guys forgive if I get too obnoxious when I post, i am trying to convey a different attitude to scare these goof-balls off. Ha Ha. And another thing asking if I "wanna f*ck?" by the third e-mail- well of course I do, but make me work for it. I can walk down to the local bar for that.

Well, see, that's the problem.

"I don't know what to write here" doesn't offer any insight other than that the person is either too lazy or too stupid to provide any information on which we could base an evaluation.

For me, that's all I need to know.

But if 98% of all the profiles on any given site are no better than "I don't know what to write here" -- and that's generally the case, in my experience -- there's no real insight -- into the person, who they are, what they want, their lives, their hopes and dreams and fears and histories and experiences -- to be gained.

if you take a persons history on paper..it won't have the same impact as it would if you learned it in person....

thats easy enough....besides..I'm a person..not a web site profile, page, or blurb...

That's one approach.

My attitude is: this is a written medium. If you want me to pay attention to you at all, you're going to have to write something that grabs me. If your profile is empty, or vapid, or boring, I'm just going to assume you're an empty, vapid, boring person -- unless you demonstrate otherwise (in the forums, for example -- but that's also a written medium).

All we have here, to differentiate ourselves from the thousands of others who have signed up on the site, is our profile and forum personae. I don't put a lot of stock in pictures, for the most part -- so, for me, it's all about the words. Being a writer, I focus on that sort of thing, perhaps more than others.

all I have to do to differentiate myself is talk...or type in this context....easy enough...utilization of the English language is key....

all in all I must concede and agree with you....

When the profile summary starts off with "my kids are VERY important [#1 priority, etc.] to me"- it's not to say that they SHOULDN'T be, but if you're SO radical about them that you have to point that out (especially at the beginning of your summary), then you probably shouldn't be dating. There's bound to be friction between dividing attention between the boyfriend and the kids otherwise.

Another one is the "I'm not into the drama" line some put in their profiles- the ironic thing is that they tend to be the ones who instigate or exacerbate said "drama". Consider it a kind of Hillary Clinton-esque conflict-of-interest, if you will.

The kicker though are the profiles with the summaries that go on for what seem to be ages. If you can't sum up who you're all about in less than five normal-sized paragraphs, then you need to do some serious editing and rewriting. This goes double for those gigantic summaries that say absolutely nothing of value (crap about kittens, rainbows, flowers, hard drugs, etc.)- if I wanted to read about psychedelic stuff, I'd go read some Hunter S. Thompson instead.

Aw I'm not alone...nobody knows who I'm talking about when I say that...its so sad....

TA-DAAAAHHH!! DING DING DING!! We have a winner, folks!

Johnny, tell him what he's won!

His expose on The Hell's Angels was probably his best work.

Another kind of profile I tend to avoid are the ones that have pics from stuff like girlie mags and lingerie brochures in them. It's like they're REALLY gonna fool me with their trying to pass off pics of lingerie models as their own. If you can't put up your own pics (your REAL pics, that is), then you're better off not putting up any pics in the first place.

And profiles with no pics are also ones I avoid. If you wanna go online datin', put up a pic so people can see you- if they went through the trouble of putting their OWN pics, then it's only customary that you do the same. You're being dishonest if you don't.

I see this constantly, and it disturbs me on two levels -- one is that the importance of the kids should be obvious to anyone who's aware that they exist. We don't need to read 17 paragraphs reinforcing the idea.

The other thing is that a lot of women seem to have the attitude that "If you can't accept my kids (they are my world!) and me as a package deal, then you should burn in hell and have porcupines thrown at you 24 hours a day and you should get ebola and then be tortured by sadistic baboons with flame throwers and machetes."

Only theirs aren't as funny.



I tend to see this as "I don't want YOUR drama because I create my own, and yours would only divert attention from mine." The diva does not like being upstaged.



Well, I can't really comment on that, since my profile is 1836 pages long....!

Yeah. If you wanna let the reader know you've got kids, fair enough- check off the box in the profile control panel that says "I gots me some kids". If you wanna go even farther, put down "I have kids". If you wanna go even farther than that, you can put down, "I have [add number of kids here] great kids". But that's about it, though.

Another kind of profile I tend to avoid are the "terminally-angry" ones... the ones that seem to do nothing but cut down all members of the opposite gender like Chuck Norris karate-kicking some miscreant on "Walker: Tejas Ranger". It's no different from the old addage, "Don't poop where you eat"- you can't seriously expect to get any dates if you're busy calling them every name in the book in some type-written tirade of Tasmanian Devil proportions.

I agree. There are some people here that would like to customize the site & exclude anyone that does not meet thier prerequisites. I would not consider a relationship with most people here because most would not be compatable with me but that's a big reason I am here; it's a way of screening incompatable people before you get into an awkward social situation. I still enjoy reading profiles & chatting with people of varied interests & ideas after I have decided there could be no romance.