Well I told a few of my friends about this and they kinda blew it off
but this realy upset me.

My now ex boyfriend showed up at my work today. (For those of you who
don't know I'm a waitress) with his 17 month old son Austin whom I
adore. He sat in my section and told me Austin was crying for me this
morning. It broke my heart even more than it already was.I don't know if
he was trying to hurt me or if he just didn't think before he said it.
He let me hold Austin for a minute before he goes,"You're going to hurt
him eventually so maybe we should just break it off now." I'm already
dumped mind you but I think that if he didn't wannt me to see Austin
then why did he come and tell me that?????I was shaking all day after
that and I'm crying again writing this.

I don't know I'm just confused right now but it helps to get it out
*sigh*

just move on with your life. forget your ex...that why he is your ex now
right??

Just my opinion, but a person who uses a small child for the purposes of
manipulating your feelings is probably someone you're better off
without. Sounds like everything he said was said solely for the purpose
of making you feel worse than you already do.

Unless you enjoy being a puppet, I'd stay well away from this guy.

those are excellant points, and i would agree with them. anyone who
could use a child like that have no right to be in a relationshipi

thnx lex u put into words what i was thinkin. cheers

A lot of men do stupid things....Like bringing in their son, to make you
hurt more. Don't let it get to you, honey.....Life goes on. I had a bad
experience myself with a relationship I was previously in, about a year
ago.......I will email you about it. But don't let this guy get to you.
He's not worth your precious time. And if you need friends, we're all
here for you.

Song, he was just trying to hurt you and knew you liked the boy and what
better way to hurt you than to use the boy. I am so sorry he did this
to you. I have heard stories of parents using kids against another
parent when they are mad, not allowing visitation, etc., I mean how much
deeper can you cut someone.

I would avoid him if at all possible.

{{{{{{{ Songb }}}}}}}}}}}}}
Lex took the words right out of my mouth,,,
Sorry sweetie,, I am so sorry you are hurting,

Yes, I agree whole-heartedly.......Try to avoid him. You'll feel better
once you do.......

*hugs*

Ok guys I know that it seems like he's a jerk right now but he's hurt
and as confused as I am. If not more so. It was ended very quickly. I
think he wants to talk but he won't because his ego is bruised,I haven't
been perfect in this break-up, the other day when we were arguing I said
aloot of hurtful things. Today hurt but I love him and if he's EVER
willing to try again I'll be there with bells on.

Oh.......No, no, no......You THINK he's hurting just as much as you
are.....Is that what he told you? Don't believe a word of it right now.
He's only going to hurt you more, in the long run. I would just be very
cautious and don't be there with bells on....Let him come to you, if
it's meant to be. Let him sweat it out a little, instead of you. Trust
me, you'll feel better about the whole thing.......

He was HOPING that HE would get to you,,,,,THROUGH YOUR LOVE
for HIS SON,,,,he's NOT over you and is trying everything to keep YOU,
NOW???????----------
If YOUR "GOOD" with NEVER seeing them both again,,,,,THEN
LIVE "YOUR" LIFE,,,and DON'T let his or his son's bother
YOU!!!!!

His son ,,so young,,doesn't even REALLY have memory of you much,,,now,,
and to prolong your-self in his life any longer will just prolong ALL
THREE OF YOU,,,PAIN,,,,

IF YOU "KNOW",,YOU TWO ARE DONE!!!

If you love someone, let them go......If they come back to you, it was
always meant to be......If they don't, move on. I'm not trying to sound
harsh, but I've been in your situation before.....And I do feel your
pain, I really do......And if you need a friend, I will be there for you
always.....But, someone's got to tell you more than just sweet dreams
and gum drops......Men are jerks, plain and simple.....And once they
hurt you and know that you'll be at their beckon call, you'll be wrapped
right around their little finger.

I think Lex and everyone else pretty much said it all sweetie.

Think of you!

They will be fine

for you my dear!

But I miss them both ALOT....

Song, you have to weigh your missing them against the extremely likely
possibility of continuing to be hurt for as long as you deal with the
guy. He has already shown himself to be a ruthless manipulator,
striking at you where you are the most vulnerable --

Not the best foundation to build a realtionship on. A person that
calculating, and so willing to hurt you for no good reason, is
dangerous. I can pretty much guarantee that if you go back to that
situation, you will be right back where you are right now within a
relatively short time. There's a cycle here, and you can either let it
roll over you, or you can put a stop to it.

Not saying it's easy, but it would be better to get out now than to try
to do it 5 or 10 years from now, when you will be much more firmly
embedded into the whole scenario....and will have endured a huge amount
of hurt in the interim....

Song it sounds like you may need some outside support.


Just to get your mind healthy and stronger.


And your emotions are normal, I think

healing takes time.


But, stay away from that guy anyway you can.

to feel sane.


jmo

M A N I P U L A T I O N .....and he used his kid to do it!!...
run away....run away....

songbirrd, you're the only person to decide for herself, we don't know
the details of this break-up, i see what he's doing is a childish
action, and if you still love each other, better you sit and talk.