My husband and I were discussing this and I thought it'd make a good forum.

If you and/or your spouse had a disease or fatal cause of death that was highly hereditary in the family, would you still bear children?

It would depend upon the disease, but I'd go with NO kids if there was a chance I'd place my child at risk.

Not to mention one of us might develop said disease and die prematurely as well, leaving the child with only one parent.

If you can foresee such things, planning is good.

In that case I would have to say no and possibly consider adoption.

you can test the DNA on the child before the termination ability expires, I tested both my children due to complications that could have arisen from my ex's genes. amniocentesis as it is called will detect a wide range of things except club foot and a couple other minor ones

I am a surrogate mother.

I have been tested and my family has been tested against most all genetic issues.


However, while pregnant with my surroson, which was genetically not mine, they found I was a carrier for CF.


After 3 pregnancies they found this?


I am still planning on having more children of my own.

Just have to make sure the one I am with doesn't carry the traits either. (Even though there is no CF history in my family and this is the first time it has shown up in my blood work.)

Uh oh...

I'm outta here. Sorry, Becca.

*smiles* i understand lil

I personally won't do it, I know others that do and if they are okay with that I bear no judgement on them.

I wouldn't. I have one beautiful, healthy, happy daughter & that's enough for me. I'd feel the same if she was adopted. If I had any known genetic problems I would not have gotten pregnant.

I work with children with special needs and see daily the struggles they face and the families, so I would go with no here also.

i knew a guy....young, good looking...was adopted but knew his father. sudden heart attacks ran rampant in his family. no one ever told him. he died when he was 24.

you know even with amiocentesis
they cant. for when i was pg with my son, i had one done, and they said he was fine.. yea right. we didnt find out untill a yr later that he had alot of problems... so the amino cant determine the right factor.. my son is a special needs child and hes my world

i would never do an amnio.
if i were pregnant, that child is mine regardless of problems
an amnio increases the risk of miscarriage

It takes a special strength & compassion to do your job. I don't know if I could. I would probably cry all day. Thank you!

i think i heard that

I would never knowingly bring a child into this world, to have to live through disease or loss
But if finances permitted I would see if there was any possible way to avoid or at less drastically lessen the chances of passing said genetics onto my children...
Also, there are many children in this world, born everyday who need good homes..so if it were between bringing a child into this world who could suffer greatly or providing for another child already here, hopefully saving said child from a lifetime of suffering I would chose the child already here, no child has a choice in being here....

with me i didnt find out that my son and i had the same birthdefect untill 3yrs ago when i had surgery and thats when i found out

that is something you were not aware of, and therefore cannot be judged negligently...it was something brought to you after the fact and will never remove how precious the life of your child is or your life for that matter....the question is would you knowingly put a child in that kind of jeopardy thats like saying you would risk placing your children in the care of a known child abuser...you knowingly took that risk and in this instance to place a child at risk even if you are aware of how much you would love and cherish them is just selfish whereas the other example is just stupid

i dont think it's negligent nor stupid
if a couple wants to bear a child of their own, there are many other factors to endure and take responsibility for. A 'normal' life for you and I may not be what is normal for someone with genetic flaws.
If my parents raised me with facts that my life will very possibly end sooner than the average persons life, yes, it would be hard to deal with but i'd be greatful for having parents who love me for giving me the chance at the life i would or could have had.