(I posted this on feedback, but i was told I should put it on here also,
thank God for copy and past!)

Seriously, why do you let people put pictures of their kids up?

It just seems kind of wrong to allow pictures of any minors on your
website.

It also stirs up trouble if they are single parents, what would the
other parent say? What if they got upset?

Also, pedophiles.

"hmmm, she has a good looking kid, I guess i can just get closer to that
women and BAM im in!"

As if that doesnt happen enough without internet dating, and i do know a
victim.

Sorry if i sounded a little on the snarky side, but please consider
making this regulatory.

I know people are proud of their kids, and thats great, would they let
them do that on myspace by themselves? LOL

I love the website, by the way!

Jessica

(though actually, i think if they are babies/small tots it's not too
wierd)

Since you reposted so will I.
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You know what you can get that kind of reaction anywhere in the world.
But I do find it funny that you do not like picture of children but yet
baby and toddlers are OK? How does that even make any sense at all?

But again you are going to run into those type of people whether it be
on the internet, a local school, the mall, walking down the street, the
bus ANYWHERE.

Posting a picture of your child is no different then walking down the
street with them.

Well of course you can run into these people anywhere,thats why I gave
that example of my friend :P

On second thought, I soppose small toddlers and babies should be
included also, its just you hardly ever hear of ages 0-3 being
victimized, but its out there.

And my reasons for this is not just due to pedophiles, but also concerns
of the other parent involved, posting pictures on the web and flashing
them to strangers is completely different.

as a single mother of two I agree. I have a myspace and I have them
blasted all over my website but only cuz my cuzins who I never see is on
my friend list and that is how I show them picts of my kids. but on a
dating web site your right you know there could be pervs out there only
talking to you just so they can molest you kids. well I'll let it be
known right here and right now if any man molests my daughters I will go
to jail for murder and it aint going to be pretty either cuz those pervs
and pedophiles (if that is how you spell it) deserve what is comeing to
them and not some jail cell either. that **** just pisses me off that
men have to go to little girls to get their jollies off you know it's
not like there aren't enough women out here to get with you know? that
is just my thought

Well, myspace i diffeent because you can make it private.

and i totally agree with you!

Let's see if we can make this as fair as possible:

Single moms, when an interesting, caring guy messages you on this, or
some other dating site, and slowly works his way into your life... you
go on a few dates, he meets your kids, etc, and then turns out to be a
pedophile... Well, you get to explain to your kids how it happened.

People are guaranteed a certain degree of anonymity on the internet.
Someone you can see in real life is much less likely to try to prey on
your children. There's no way to tell for sure who is dangerous, they
can give a fake name and make up anything they want.

But hey, they're your kids.

tear your scenario can happen no matter what whether you meet them on
the net or at your local grocery store. You can't blame the net in
regards to that. your idea of when it happens you can explain it your
children well iguess that applies to the local teen that you feel
dresses to promiscious or smiles a little to much when she gets raped
she can just explain how it happened cause she deserves right?

I personally dont see anything wrong with it. And yes, I have some.

The fact that anyone can worm themselves in your life and gain access to
your kids can happen ANYWHERE! I feel that it's up to the parent to move
very slowly, and to be very wary of people.

The fact that we have had child enticements around our town and a town
20 miles away, just goes to prove that it can happen just from walking
home from school.

So just to put the blame on the internet is just a bad excuse, for not
taking the responsibility that you have as a parent to make sure your
kids are safe,as you try and find someone to grow old with. Yes their
are really sick people out there, and there are some nice, decent guys
that would love you and your kids the right way.

to each their own. i personally see no harm in a picture of my kids and
have posted them on various sites.

my space is NOT different... just as many pedophiles can check there...
and considering i have many friends here, i enjoy showing pics of my
kids. i have never and would never invite someone into the lives of my
kids that i dont know.... and i would hope and pray that i would never
meet a pedophile anywhere... but when i take my kids to the park, they
could be there... my son is 10 years old and uses public bathrooms on
his own... i dont like it, but hes too old to be in the ladies room... i
talk to my kids and let them know that if anything EVER happens to them,
they let me know, and it WILL be taken care of... I definitely dont like
the idea of a grown person "checking out" my children but in order for
that not to happen, i would have to keep them in my home 24/7. my next
door neighbor is more of a worry to me than someone that lives in
California... this is a dating site... is not all that it is used for...
check out the other forums... you will see that plenty of us have
friendships...

the freaks and pedafiles in this world are not confined to the boundries
of the internet... they could gain access to our children any where and
at any time... they could be riends, neighbors, or babysitters.. they
could be strangers on teh street... if youcary a pix of your kids in
your wallet and it gets stolen, theirpix is out there.. if your child is
in sports in school their pix is out there... if a sicko is driving by
while your child is at recess at school they can take a pix there....
they are not only online, and just by pasting the pix online is it
"inviting" someone to prey on them... i dont think it is.. the pedifile
will find a way to get access to a child if that is what they want... it
is our job to protecct them..


and as a side note.... a person can lye about their idenity and their
past and who they real are both on and offline... the false identitys
are not only online...

My daughters come first before anything....Any person viewing me needs
to know that. I am not going to hide that i have kids or that i am very
involved. I am proud of it and love my family life.

So without sounding rude, are we supposed to keep our kids and our
hearts locked up in the house 24/7?
What kind of a life is that? Not one that I want for me or my kids.

Can you guys please read ALL of my post and then comment?

That would be greatly appreciated.

What I mean is you all seem to be focusing on one part of my post.

i post pictures of my children. seriously, what harm could come of it?
i'm not out to meet a man...and if i WERE to, he'd have to date me for
at least six months before he'd be able to meet the family, anyway.

if a man is sick enough to get off on my kid's pics...well, they'd never
know of it, anyhow. i mean, what's he going to do, crawl through my
monitor?

my children ARE me...

Hmm, you post an excellent point.

BUT what about people who arent as smart as you?

Youn know there are some dumb people who arent careful with who they let
in there children's lives, and how can you screen for bad parents on a
website?

similar to screening in real life, i would guess. i can weed out many
potentials just based on their forum postings. certain attitudes come
through...and i can tell whether or not we'd kill each other. for
instance, i would never date anyone who thought that drugs were
okay...or corporal punishment...or was obviously a partier, bigoted, or
chauvinistic...

the most charming man that you meet at the park...well, HE could be an
abuser, as well. there is NO substitute for vigilance.

I meant for the website maintainers to see who was a smart parent,lol.

you cant screen for bad parents anywhere ,they are all over the
place.Like my friend lulu ,I m not worried about an imaginary
sicko.Would the parents on here have to take a test to see if we are
"good" before we could post our kids pics? Please.I am more worried at
the mall,when in the park ,anywhere real life.The govrnment regulates
us enough and i think it is my choice as a very good ,smart,loving
mother whether or not i put my kids pics on my profile.you can make pics
on here private by the way.