Ok, after reading everyone else's posts on this topic, I'm wondering if either I don't know what passive-aggressive means or if I'm one of those weird, abused people with a low self-esteem.
Ok, here's what I've done that I think was passive-aggressive. When the hubby & I used to fight, at one point during the argument I'd just stop talking. My "oh f*** it" switch got flipped. I'd go cold and silent for a while.
Passive-aggressive??

Thanks for posting that Winx.

Diagnostic Criteria for Passive-Aggressive Personality Disorder

A pervasive pattern of passive resistance to demands for adequate social and occupational performance, beginning by early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts, as indicated by at least five of the following:

1. Procrastinates, i.e., puts off things that need to be done so that deadlines are not met.

2. Becomes sulky, irritable, or argumentative when asked to do something he or she does not want to do.

3. Seems to work deliberately slowly or to do a bad job on tasks that he or she really does not want to do.

4. Protests, without justification, that others make unreasonable demands on him or her.

5. Avoids obligations by claiming to have "forgotten".

6. Believes that he or she is doing a much better job than others think he or she is doing.

7. Resents useful suggestions from others concerning how he or she could be more productive.

8. Obstructs the efforts of others by failing to do his or her share of the work.

9. Unreasonably criticizes or scorns people in positions of authority.


Source: American Psychiatric Association. Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders.

Quiet,

I know somebody that has that disorder. It makes for a horrible relationship.

Everybody has some passive aggressive in them, btw. The disorder is worse.

is it worse than bipolar?

Hey Tina ... Isn't that Mirror a putz? Can you believe his lame topics?

I don't think so.

Diagnostic Criteria for Passive-Aggressive Personality Disorder

A pervasive pattern of passive resistance to demands for adequate social and occupational performance, beginning by early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts, as indicated by at least five of the following:

1. Procrastinates, i.e., puts off things that need to be done so that deadlines are not met.

2. Becomes sulky, irritable, or argumentative when asked to do something he or she does not want to do.

3. Seems to work deliberately slowly or to do a bad job on tasks that he or she really does not want to do.

4. Protests, without justification, that others make unreasonable demands on him or her.

5. Avoids obligations by claiming to have "forgotten".

6. Believes that he or she is doing a much better job than others think he or she is doing.

7. Resents useful suggestions from others concerning how he or she could be more productive.

8. Obstructs the efforts of others by failing to do his or her share of the work.

9. Unreasonably criticizes or scorns people in positions of authority.


Source: American Psychiatric Association. Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders.

Because the have not learned to be consistently assertive. Passive agressive behavior is results when someone is consistently passive and build up anger because the did not address problems or desires when they occur, and then on ocassion they will explode and be aggressive.